I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Look at the homeless people. They use shopping carts to carry their few possessions in. They are weak and frail and need the cart to keep them stable while walking the streets. It’s so sad.
I don’t know what shopping carts costs but they are occasionally taken from stores and used by the homeless.
I am sorry about your knees and I hope that your surgery will provide relief for you.
I’ve seen other people put walkers or canes in shopping carts too and there is nothing else in the cart .
Down the road , shopping cart is my plan while in the store .
I switched to hockey because it is low impact. I swim too. Walk a lot.
“Be active!”
”Not THAT active. You’ve blown through the joint!”
Where is the sweet spot?
Knee issues and a pain. Are you a candidate for knee replacement surgery?
My mom had the bone on bone situation and struggled with pain. Unfortunately, she wasn’t a candidate for surgery.
My youngest daughter blew out her knee from years of dancing. She’s had knee surgery.
My girls were involved in gymnastics and dance and were on dance and gymnastics teams.
Kids love dance, gymnastics and sports, it’s fun for them but injuries occur and they end up seeing an orthopedic surgeon!
My girls still exercise but they have switched over to yoga!
I bet it cost your mom a fortune to do her kitchen repair work done! Kitchen and bathroom renovations are so expensive.
Whenever I took my husband’s grandmother shopping she would walk fine with the shopping cart.
I was happier when I took her shopping where carts were available because she refused to use a walker or a cane.
Lord knows, she wasn’t about to wear sensible shoes which she referred to as “old lady” shoes!
She was in her 80’s and never thought of herself as an older woman! 🤣
They do make those walkers now that a person isn’t hunched over. The upright walkers where a person can walk in an upright position are a lot more expensive! It’s sad that they cost more.
One time my dad told my mom to use the scooter that the store provided for elderly customers. My mom looked at my father like he had two heads and said, “Honey, I am not using that thing!” She used a cane for years and later on switched over to a walker.
Ovens should be stock sizes in the US.
MIL won’t let a walker in the house . She is stubborn but I believe still competent to make decisions . Therefore, I won’t feel responsible when something bad happens .
Need,
you are right about them using shopping carts as walkers . Why not ? They aren’t walking as stooped over . It’s probably more comfortable . Why don’t they just make walkers like the smaller shopping carts that aren’t long in the front ? Nobody walks inside those walkers like they are supposed to anyway , they all have them out too far in front .
It’s interesting to see some older people shopping. They use their shopping carts as walkers.
That’s why they shop in Walmart and Target.
They no longer shop in stores that don’t have shopping carts.
I like that ! So far MIL hasn’t used us as her walking stick. But I’m glad you taught me to say “ I am not a …..…”. She clings on to furniture and wall surfs inside the house .
She uses a cane when she goes out but only because she absolutely could not walk without it in an open space with nothing to hold on to . I can tell she couldn’t walk without it because she is putting almost all her weight on it. (Her left leg can’t seem to carry much weight anymore). A cane is not meant for that ( hence the many falls when she doesn’t keep the cane perfectly upright causing it to give way to one side and it and her fall over like a tree). She is also very hunched over at the waist . She needs Tiny Tim’s crutch , or a good walker . We assume that once she gets upstairs she crawls over to the bed to use that to stand up .
It’s very sad how stubborn she is despite all the times she faceplants on the sidewalk .
Start practicing now for the next visit 'I am not a stair lifter'.
l've had to add 'I am not a walking stick' to my collection now that BOTH Mothers need one. One refuses to consider getting one, the other has one but often refuses/forgets to use it.
"I don't need one!" as they clutch at furtniture or cling onto somebody else.
Hmm, maybe I will suggest they CRAWL everywhere 🤣🤣🤣
I did some balancing exercises earlier so that may have been part of the problem. ⚖
I like Skechers (Go Walk) shoes for comfort.
When I was at the college we all would have sore legs the first week back after summer holidays as the floors there were concrete too and we spent a lot of time on our feet teaching. I guess I'll adjust or wear shoes with thicker soles.
Need - same for your hubs grandmother. In some ways you have to admire their spirit.
Oh my gosh! Too freaking funny! 😁
My husband’s grandmother refused to move out of her large two story home. She also refused to wear ‘old lady’ shoes!
So, she would climb two flights of stairs in high heels! How the woman didn’t kill herself falling down the stairs is beyond me!
Here goes . Many of you know my FIL died the beginning of last month . MIL lives 4 hours away . We have been for years telling her to put shower grab bars , use a walker , move or get a stair lift etc . All of which she refuses . We believe she is still competent . Ok people , remember this important detail …… MIL BEAR CRAWLS up her stairs .
Today DH called his mother because he needed to know the exact date that his parents’ divorce was final ( 30 years ago ) for some paperwork for FIL’s estate to be settled . ( FIL’s copy along with a lot of other important papers have been MIA since before DH was POA). MIL said she would immediately go upstairs to get that paper and that she knew exactly where it was . She said she would call back . I was listening to DH’s side of this short conversation at the very beginning of our walk for exercise …….
DH and I walked 3 MILES . DH’s phone finally rang and DH said to his mother
“ How many flights of stairs did you climb ?” She said just the one . ( she only has one fight ) . DH asked her if she found the paper right away . His mother said yes .
The old me would have been driving out immediately to assess this situation because it took her so long to get up the stairs . Today all we could do was laugh . We were already planning to go in April for her birthday……..( sooner if needed).
#1 Filling out in detail the comment card from the hospital. I put it in the mail today. At first DH was like "let it go," but he agreed with me when I said "how else would they know they erred unless told?"
#2 I have an appointment on Tuesday with my PCP. I will discuss it with her then.
#3 The new package of dressings came from Amazon today. I was able to shower after DH removed the hospital dressing and he said the wound looked better. Need, thank you. I am told not to apply the A & D ointment while the dressing is on.
#4 The 3" gel mattress topper is enroute.
It’s hard , but try to file it under “ I tried”. And try to enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Gosh, that’s frustrating! What is your next step? Did they recommend anything to you?
You definitely should see someone who specializes in wound care. My mother’s home health nurse was excellent! She specialized in wound care. She ordered specific ointment which was paid for by Medicare. It seems like she ordered two different types.
I wish that I could remember the names of the products. Mom died several years ago and I can’t remember the name of the meds that she ordered. I think mom had to leave it on for an extended period of time.
Perhaps you can get your primary care physician to write a script “ to be evaluated and treated at the wound care clinic “. Maybe that would work .
Listening to a kitten purr is so very sweet! I have always been a cat person. I hate that I am horribly allergic to cats, dogs, and many other animals and things.