I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
The funny thing is I was born and raised in Henderson NV and they are even hotter than Tucson. Same humidity but average 10° hotter.
I do agree that it is all what you are use to. I had a coworker that moved to Vegas from Billings Montana, he arrived and teased me about wearing a Parker, it wasn't cold...I told him to tell me that in 3 years. Yep, you can't handle the cold so well when you deal with extreme heat. He was wearing heavy coats in 3 years and we all laughed about his blood thinning out.
I have to say that I love my swimming pool and am grateful to have mini split A/C in my home. It gets us through comfortably. :-)
Went to a place called , He// in Cayman in January it was 95, can't imagine what that is like now.
Golden, this heat your having now is it unusually hot?
Isthisrealllyreal, I think it's what your brought up with, I feel like cold weather you can put more clothes on, warm weather, you can only take so many off.
Golden, so happy that you have areas you can be cool. Nothing is as hard or as dangerous as the heat.
I would love 65 right about now. You can have the heat.
Send some of that warmth down here, it's about 65 here today.
My whine - hottest day of the year so far and the A/C is not working. We have a heat warning till 9 tonight. The good news is that the public places of the building are air conditioned so I can cool off there and read or whatever. I have a HVAC service guy coming tomorrow sometime.
Then there is the "Norwegian Life-Cleaning" which is about continuously striving to cleanse one's life down to a serene simplicity: A life containing what you love, use, and need without unnecessary surplus to disturb your present-day peace or bring a sizable decluttering task onto those you love in the future." (the internet)
You got it!
I had a proper stand up argument with an aquaintance over this! She was on & on about how I should take my Mother in, or move in with her, do everything yada yada
I said I couldn’t. She kept pushing.
I asked if she expected her daughter to do that & BOOM, that truth bomb fell.
Her previous statements of not ever being a burden to her daughter just exploded & disapated. She actually stood & stared at me with a look of fear. Then starts this high pitched "But what will I do? What will we ALL do?"
Make the best of it in the nursing home.. choose a good one, with Friday happy hour? My jokes fell flat as I was shaking from the confrontation, she was insulted & we were both close to tears by now.
(This was standing chest height in the public swimming pool by the way. We can add that scene to the Aging Care movie) 🤣
Also most of my friends are in there 60s and up, and ya know they are really getting scared of aging and who is going to "take care" of them , so they get really insulted and shocked when I say , I'm not doing more for mom than I am doing, and I'm not taking care of a bed ridden parent. They are thinking about themselves and there hopes of there children, keeping them out of a facility.
A lot of my older rellies signed themselves up for council services, some downsized, my own Mother did the 'Swedish Death Clean' & has mercifully not left too much to sort.
Not to shame & blame (ha ha, I am sure my genetics are nothing to shout about 🤣) but one of my Husband's family appears to have this *Daughter-Care-Plan*.
Lives in a city, in an area choca full of oldies & VERY well serviced by every type of delivery & service. Yet only will accept shopping, housekeeping (anything really) from her daughter.
We KNOW how that will go.. that daughter will need to decide on her own boundaries as time goes on & the needs increase.
Not just my family but those around me, neighbors, just people I meet that ask how my mom is, and give me the side 👀 eye look. I told someone I know children should not be your retirement plan!! She is insisting it is hers, because she isn't going in one of "those" places.
It's just all over, maybe because I live rural, it's worse. 🤷
When people say things to you , Tell these people “ I’m doing what I can. Since you have noticed Mom needs more help, when are you coming to help her ?”
I am so sick and tired of people that think that me and others, mostly women, are supposed to give up there whole lives to care for there aging parent, for YEARS.
Ya no anyone in my life want to judge me, I don't give a Fig Newton what anyone thinks of me. Yes I know mom is getting more frail, yes I know she needs more help!!! But it's not going to be me!! I do my share, end of story, tell someone else!!!
I am worthy to have my own life, my husband is worthy to have his wife home if that's what he wants!!
There I feel better!! 😛😄
I agree a break would be good for you and DH right now -even a small one,
Aruba if possible .
However , a storm is now going on with sister with Lewy Body ( who refuses her meds ). It never ends .
May you & your DH get the sleep you need. By the sound of those relatives, this ride is not over yet..
When it is, what wonderful place will you book a trip to?