Do adult children have any more rights than their elderly parent's siblings, regarding their parent's care?

Asked by jldson  |  Jun 1, 2011

My husband is in his 50's and both his parents have Alzheimer and dementia. A family meeting was set up with the kids and his moms brothers and sisters. It started off to be where my husband had control of his parents (he is the oldest), but after we left the meeting and went back to our home time 4 hours away. The siblings of his mom got together again and her youngest brother took over the parents made up legal papers that we did not know about and got my husbands daughter to be the caregiver without any knowledge to us. So the question is as my husband being the oldest sibling does he not have the rights over his parents then the mothers siblings? And if so, what can we do about it?

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anonymous13319

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Jun 1, 2011

If your husband's parents have been diagnosed with Alzheimers and have dimished capacity, I doubt that anything they signed will be considered legal.
Talk to an attorney about your options. Btw, being the oldest child does not make any difference as far as the law is concerned.
Who has their powers of attorney? At the meeting was anything put in writing? Did his parents sign any paperwork?
Shame on his family for pulling the rug out from under him.

 
 

jeannegibbs

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Jun 1, 2011

If adults are competent to make sound judgements they are entitled to name anyone they want to play various roles in their lives, including non-family members. If they are not able to make decisions in their own best interests and did not designate roles while they were still of sound mind, then it gets a whole lot trickier. It is not like rules of inheritence where the law specifies who inherits if there is no legal will. I agree with Lilli that talking to a lawyer will help you identify your options.

 
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