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I know it is different for everyone, but am I doing the right thing? I'm keeping her as comfortable as I can, with water. She won't go see anyone.
cindybrownlbsw
Give a Hug
Aug 27, 2010
I would offer to consult a hospice provider to come in and discuss the situation. Hospice is particularly skilled at helping keep people comfortable as they die and respecting their wishes and dignity at the same time. Hospice will also support you in your remarkable efforts to care for your loved one. Medicare and almost all medical insurances have hospice coverage so it might not even cost anything at all. Hospice can help with medications, durable medical equipment (hospital bed, pressure relieving mattresses, etc) and other items to manage her comfort and symptoms.
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Vernon
Aug 30, 2010
Hospice is great, but it doesn't answer the question of what " I " can do. Don't misunderstand, I don't mean to downplay it because certainly... Hospice is one very important consideration that " You " can surely do. From the more " I " though, you might try what I've found to be best for my Mom. That is, constantly uplifting her EMOTIONAL content. Surely as a Caregiver, health and safety are considered to be the primary focal points. And the largely are. But especially as the mind of the patient digresses ever more, their emotional frame of reference begins to become the entirety of their life. The principle example is an Alzheimer's victim. He or she is not cognizant enough to recognize the health and safety issues that are in place and provided by the Caregiver. BUT, in that their life wholly embraces and projects out of what their emotions bring forth - in my opinion, that is the principle aspect of care giving most of us without really realizing it... let drift. Especially when the health and safety issues become increasingly paramount considerations.Good luck !V
JulieQ
Sep 9, 2010
You need Hospice Care. I have them for my mother due to a recent illness even though she isn't terminal at this point. At 92, we have to consider that she could only live another six months even though her general health is good. They provide A LOT of help. I have a volunteer who comes for two hours on Monday. I have a CNA who comes on Tuesdays to give my mom a sponge bath. On Friday, the nurse and social worker come over. They provide many supplies, Depends, pads, etc. Plus they provide emotional support for me. They can help you navigate the paperwork for additional services such as respite. They have a Chaplain who can give you and your loved one spiritual support. The service is all paid through Medicare so please take advantage of it. It can be the transitional help you need as your loved one passes and a LIFE SAVER for you.
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jamesherman16
Oct 29, 2011
My brother in law is suffering in his home with lymphoma cancer, with my mother in law, as his caregiver. His blood pressure is 66/36, he has gurgling in his lungs. Is this a near sign of death
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