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For the last 3 years, I have had a nurse taking care of my mom. Lately, she has been making many mistakes that are potentially harmful to my mom's health. I really don't know how to let her go since mom is very attached to her. I need some advice!
Carol Bradley Bursack, Jun 19, 2009
Over the span of two decades author, columnist and speaker Carol Bradley Bursack cared for a neighbor and six elderly family members. Because of this experience, Bradley Bursack created a portable support group, the book "Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories."
Is there a "third party" that can handle this rather than family? As Austin said, if she is with an agency, it would be easier, but I've got a sense she is not. Could you somehow bring doctor's orders into this - as in a different type of care is needed? This is touchy, since your mother likes her. Keep us posted on how it goes.Carol
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Jun 18, 2009
You need to be honest and she knows that the job is now too much for her and she probably is just trying to hang in there-if she is with an agency tell them what is going on at this time if she is private it will be harder but your Mom's health is on the line-your Mom will be upset for a while but you need to do what is important-years ago we had to fire my MIL from babysitting our kids and it was very hard but she was causing so many problems we had to do it. A nurse at our hospital had to br fired and it turned out she had early alzheimers disease and was not aware until then.
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lovingdaughter
Jun 19, 2009
Austin and MindingOurElders,I can always count on you for good advice. I talked to mom this morning and laid it all out there for her. Also, the dr. talked to her and told her the woman needs to go. She is a private hire and I have cut her hours down to just one day a week. She is off for the summer is is not coming back in September. When I explained it all to mom, she said she understood, but was still sad to see her go. I feel so much better that she is gone. Last week she forgot mom's blood pressure patch, A few weeks before that she didn't even put her meds together rat all. This week she was taking her blood pressure reading all wrong and gave my mom a pill that made it even lower! Thanks for being there for me.Linda
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