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What can I expect during the final stages of emphysema?

Asked by dgrey63  |  Oct 5, 2011

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I am caring for FIL, who has severe emphysema. He is also an alcoholic and was diagnosed anorexic.
He is in denial and believes he has mesothelioma ( which would have killed him years ago .)
My husband and I have tried to broach the subject, about his wishes concerning impending death. His desire is to be on full life support, until the end and he has no desire for hospice.
Some days, I think I can see a rapid decline, and other days, I believe he is being manipulative, to gain sympthy. I do not like the man, but I respect him.
What can I expext, as far as the end stages? I know people with epmhysema, can live a long time, but I would think that would be to those who take really good care of themselves.
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Carol Bradley Bursack, Oct 6, 2011

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This is a tough way to die, so I hope he goes with hospice as the end stages near. He likely misunderstands hospice, as some do. Hospice care would keep him comfortable when no cure is possible.
However, you will need to comply with his wishes. He will gasp, choke and be utterly miserable, I'm afraid. You'll need to work closely with his doctor to do what you can for him. He is making a choice here.

If he has had any treatment for alcoholism, he would have support in that direction. If not - he'll get so he can't drink and that will make him cranky, too. You have your hands full. By the way, hospice will help with the alcohol withdrawal symptoms, as well, without judging him. Take care,
Carol

 
 

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Oct 6, 2011

Thank you. I know he misunderstands hospice ( not to be funny, but he made a comment that everyone he knows that went to hospice died ).

 
 

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