At what time does the decision of enforcing power of attorney in order to protect the finances of a parent?

Aug 5, 2009

I don't think forced POA is a possibility. Seems they have to grant permission, and retain individual power to act in their behalf, regardless of lacking judgment. Do you mean Conservatorship?

mlbatzer

Aug 11, 2009

I suppose that might be what we need. Two of us 4 siblings have legal rights in the case of our dad, but as I said before, it would never fly in court because my dad has a memory like a herd of young elephants. The drug addictsd he brings home tho, are draining him of his savings. What can we do???

romerovelarde

Aug 19, 2009

Encourage your dad to consult an expert in the field of elder accounting. This may cost money but he will be able to rely on a neutral party to handle his affairs and can get the moochers out of his hair once the flow of money is cut off by an accountant.
Good luck!

mlbatzer

Aug 20, 2009

Thank you for the input, but at this point my father is the only person who thinks he can handle his affairs, the only person who can call the shots and this is only the start of a very long stream of conflict. He wants no help other than myself leaving my home and family life to move in and care for him. This entails my giving up my life indefinitely. I can relate to his not wanting to leave his home, it is his dream, but I am living my dream of having a farm and lifestock and leaving it to return to a busy city life thick with suburbs, concrete and traffic. We each care about our father and want his safe and well cared for, his refusal to join any of us in our home, settle into an assisted living home near us or in his own neighborhood, all remain negated. At 93 he deserves a contented life, but should he not be willing to see our lives go unscathed to some degree?

romerovelarde

Aug 20, 2009

You can only do as much as he will allow you to do. Is the money an issue for you? In other words, are you upset about the drug addicts in your dad's life getting his funds? The best thing is to report to your state's agency, Adult Protective Services, then also to begin guardianship/conservatorship proceedings. A guardian can be appointed by the court--it doesn't have to be you. Then you can see your father as often as you want but not move from your home. Those decisions become tough--your family or him? Try to compromise and live up to your and his expectations of being a good person.

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