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Susan (SusanMyers)
Age: 48
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Hello I am a mother of two. My girls are 10 years apart. My oldest just gave me a wonderful grandaughter about 2 years ago. I have a very understanding husband, THANK GOD! My mother has been depressed all of my life. She came to live with me 8 years ago. I was just told that she has cancer. When I was 16 my oldest brother died of a drug overdose. I have an other brother, but he is just not there. My parents split up after 42 years of marriage. He remarried and fell very ill. My step m...Read More

I am caring for my mother, Elizabeth, who is 84 years old, living at my home and the primary ailment is depression.

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SusanMyers posted 2/3/2009 at 7:28 pm

Thank you for the help that I found here at agecare. My mother passed Jan. 30, 2009. Bitter sweet. She is out of pain, but believe it or not God not to be able to talk to her will be wierd. Love y ...Read More

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SusanMyers posted 6/25/2008 at 2:15 pm

Here is my favorite joke that I have ever come accross...

A lady is walking through mud and rain with a laundry basket on her head and she looks up and says, " God I know you won't put any ...Read More

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SusanMyers posted 6/22/2008 at 2:21 am

I have read some of the comments placed in this community and it is true. Our mother's make us feel guilty. My mother trys to raise my 12 year old daughter, like I don't know what I am doing. I hav ...Read More

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Commented on a discussion 2/4/2009 at 6:52 am

Needing to vent: Our parents are like children.

Julie Q

My mother had a number of (UTIs). Took her in and found that she had a block in a tub going from kidney to blatter. As for stool, with all the pain meds that they take and some ot ...Read More

On My Mind... 2/3/2009 at 7:28 pm

Commented on a discussion 8/12/2008 at 11:40 am

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

Sweet mlv3000, I don't know how well you see but my pictures are never that good.

Sorry that I have not been on in a while. I have found that I play the Mobster game on myspace.com and it ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/10/2008 at 10:07 am

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

I did ask if we could put a picture on our profile at least mlv3000. I tried a few ways and could not do it. Sorry, they are good.

love ya,
Susan

Commented on a discussion 8/10/2008 at 9:34 am

Needing to vent: Our parents are like children.

Love,

I am so very glad that your doctor says you are okay. I know that it can seem to be the hardest thing in the world to reduce stress, but I have found that will my mother is napping, ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/9/2008 at 7:30 pm

Needing to vent: Our parents are like children.

Brenda, this is the one with the back that cannot lift over 10 pounds. With Medicare they have been sending a case worker, then a nurse, and two kinds of theropy workers. You don't have to do this a ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/9/2008 at 7:17 pm

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

Hey Girls,

Cindi, I was a pleaser. Being a daughter of an alcoholic father. I took on the responsiblity for everything. My brother's got in to drugs. They say you can go either way.
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Commented on a discussion 8/2/2008 at 10:00 pm

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

I am very glad to know that you have some suport there with you. Embrase every moment you get with them. Try to surround yourself with as many positive people as much as you can.
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Commented on a discussion 7/27/2008 at 5:24 pm

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

Hey Ladies,

Exsuce any mistakes I make in this. I am completly emty right now.

Hope everyone is doing something for themselves to help releve the stress of all of this that has been handed to us.
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Commented on a discussion 7/11/2008 at 3:30 pm

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

HAVE A GREAT TIME! TRY NOT TO THINK TO MUCH OF HOME BABY, YOU WILL DO THAT ENOUGH WHEN YOU GET BACK.

LOVE YA!!!!! @->- Suppose to be a rose, don't know.

Commented on a discussion 7/11/2008 at 3:21 pm

What can I do about friends who don't support my caregiving?

I have two girls. They are 10 years apart. The one that will be 22 in December, has a great husband and my yummy grandaughter. She how ever still treats her sister like she really does not want her in the family.
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Commented on a discussion 7/11/2008 at 10:13 am

My family thinks I pushed my parents out of my house.

Hey Ladymom59,

How are things going? I pray things are getting better for dad. Has mom made enough friends and gotten off his back yet?
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Answered a question 7/11/2008 at 10:03 am

How can I find time to spend with my daughter and my husband if caring for mom takes all of my time?

Recovery, the one thing that I have learned in my 45 years here is that you should always take advice given by someone who has been through what you are going through. Not all of it may fit your worl ...Read More

Answered a question 7/10/2008 at 10:39 am

How can I find time to spend with my daughter and my husband if caring for mom takes all of my time?

Thank you sooz and Recovery.

I really don't know what i would have done with out this site. I have told a good many people about it that have friend or family memebers in somewhat the same fix.
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Asked a question 6/27/2008 at 3:37 pm

How can I find time to spend with my daughter and my husband if caring for mom takes all of my time?

There are some days when I well that I have no desire to do anything, most of the time. Anytime I go to say something to mother that I think that she will get a kick out of she will go right off the s ...Read More

Answered a question 6/26/2008 at 10:38 am

When is it enough?

CARINGWIFE,

How are you doing? I hope a least a little bit better. Do not give up. I wish I could put my arms around you a give you a big hug. So concider yourselve hugged!
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Commented on a discussion 6/26/2008 at 10:33 am

My family thinks I pushed my parents out of my house.

ladymom59,

It should get easier. She does not have you to let out her frustration out on 24/7, do you think he might be getting it now?
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Commented on a discussion 6/26/2008 at 10:20 am

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

Mlv3000,

Well second opinion went well. Now we wait to find out when she can have the surgery. They will be taking out the tube between the bladder and kidney on her right side and having ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 6/26/2008 at 10:02 am

What can I do about friends who don't support my caregiving?

Cat I just love you. Keep on venting girl. Maybe someone out in the real world will get the message!

Susan

Commented on a discussion 6/25/2008 at 8:48 pm

What can I do about friends who don't support my caregiving?

I love America, please do not take this the wrong way, but when it come to how so many treat thier elders it makes me ill!!! These people are not to be thrown away or over looked. The people we care ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 6/25/2008 at 8:16 pm

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

Well Marylynne,

My father told mom if I turned out to be another boy he would name me Susan anyway. What a wonderful world we live in? LOL. I understand you completely. Maybe God is try ...Read More

On My Mind... 6/25/2008 at 2:15 pm

Commented on a discussion 6/25/2008 at 2:05 pm

I need help with my mom when I travel

Jean I will be looking in on your comment board every once and a while. You are a lot stronger than you know. Trust me you will make it. I wish my brother would at least pick up the damb phone and ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 6/25/2008 at 1:38 pm

My family thinks I pushed my parents out of my house.

Sweetheart don't feel bad. My husband's grandfather had a strock and could not live alone. Now my husband's mother was pasted before I ever meet him, but this man had two other daughters and two oth ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 6/24/2008 at 9:13 pm

Advice on how to deal with live-in mother

Hello ladies,

Feeling Hopeless parents are not always right. Boy I found that out a good many of times. You have your right to feel the way you do. No one should ever tell you that you a ...Read More

Hello ladies,

Feeling Hopeless parents are not always right. Boy I found that out a good many of times. You have your right to feel the way you do. No one should ever tell you that you are wrong about your feelings. We all have that right!!! The way I see it this is a place to help releave some of the pain or share some of the good. Which ever we are having that day.

Today, not so good. Could not get out of bed. Yes, I am on depression meds. Go figure. I know her family doctor somewhat well and she asked me one time why mom needed valum, I told her it was so I would not have to board up her door and slide her food in under the door. Thank God she has a since of humar. My 12 year old heard me say that one time and she took a hamer in her grandmother's room so that if I ever really did this she will be able to get out. LOL.

Well Decor426, we went to the apt. to find out what needs to be done. It sound somewhat simple. I am going for a second oppenion(sp) 6/25/08. I just want to make sure before they have to cut her open. You see unlike Feeling Hopeless, I feel as I have been my mother's mother since I was about 5 years old. I two am the youngest, with two older brothers. I lost the oldest when I was 16. Sorry to say the wrong one died. But his death kept me out of the drug sence, so that I guess in someway is a good thing. People tell me that I have a bad habit of always looking on the good side. My husband knows the other side of me. He says that I have a sicker since of humar than he does. Trust me that is bad and sad.

My mother and I were talking one night in her room and again I was hearing the list of her BMS, pains, and what ever she coughs up. I cannot believe that I said this out load, but I did. She had a plastic trash bag next to her in the bed. I said well if you will put that plastic bag over your head and all the pain will go away. Well, at the time she did not figure what I had said out, but boy the next day did I get it. She came out of her room looking somewhat funny at me and said "Did you tell me to put the plastic bag on my head and pull the string?" All I could do was laugh and say mom I am so sorry. I was in a very bad mood. No one is perfect!!!!!

I love you all for being here for me and anyone else that needs to vent!
Susan

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