MiaMadre commented
8/12/2010 at 10:14 pm
SKP I also want you to stay and keep contributing. My mother was a very caring loving mother all her life and it is sometimes difficult for me to relate to those that have 'less than perfect' to "
...Read MoreSKP I also want you to stay and keep contributing. My mother was a very caring loving mother all her life and it is sometimes difficult for me to relate to those that have 'less than perfect' to "downright awful' mothers or fathers, but I do understand their position too.
BUT we have to live with the decisions WE make about our behaviors, not justify what 'we' will or won't do based on what our parents did. My mother was so dear and kind to me ALL her life, that there wasn't anything I wouldn't do for her, INCLUDING tolerating her outbursts or her anger when I visited her in the nursing home. But it didn't stop me from visiting her four days a week (or more, I work for myself so I could make my own schedule). But that is just me, I am NOT looking for 'kudos' from anyone for doing so, but I knew in my heart that once she was gone, she would be gone forever. And even a bad day with my mother was better than nothing. She passed on my birthday this year, but it still wasn't about me, it was knowing that she would no longer have to be confused on where she was, or WHO I was. or that we would not have to watch her slip even further away from us, while still being in the same room.
So your point of view is very understandable, and perhaps even necessary so those with less than perfect parents will see that how they conduct themselves is important to how their treat others that were less than kind.
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