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Rita (roxie)
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I am caring for my mother, June, living at my home.

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RSuzyJ gave a hug 5/11/2011 at 11:06 am

Roxie, Thank you for posting...I am going through the same process even though my husband, who has advanced Parkinson's disease, has not passed on yet. Your words touch me also and I so understand th ...Read More

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AgingCareTeam gave a hug 11/1/2010 at 12:35 pm

Happy National Family Caregivers Month!

National Family Caregivers month is about honoring yourself as one of the 65 million family caregivers in this country who take care of their loved o ...Read More

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dahliaseason gave a hug 9/13/2010 at 1:30 pm

thanks for writing.
it is a tremendous gift our mothers give to us when they allow us to reciprocate the care they gave.
of all the hardships of life, i never really fully understood the har ...Read More

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CajeanL50 gave a hug 9/13/2010 at 9:50 am

Thank you for writing and God bless you as you keep on, keeping on!! We'll get through it, with His help.
Cajean

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Braida gave a hug 8/21/2010 at 11:33 am

I really feel for you, Roxie, and understand the grief, sadness, and guilt you are experiencing. I've been through it. Keep going to the meetings. I promise, in time you will start feeling less of a ...Read More

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linda09 gave a hug 8/21/2010 at 1:20 am

am sorry for ur loss , yes it takes a long time of healing and accepting it , i lost my mom almost 21 yrs ago , i accept it but boy i sure miss her awfuly bad .
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CajeanL50 gave a hug 8/20/2010 at 11:37 pm

Hi Roxie. Sure is helpful sharing our feelings and thoughts with others who've been in the midst of it! Thank God we don't have ALL bad days; but sometimes its sure harder to rise above the "stuff". ...Read More

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SecretSister gave a hug 7/1/2010 at 9:31 am

Hi Rita, thanks for your hug and message on my wall. God bless you in your journey! Hugs and prayers, Anne

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DOCaregivers gave a hug 6/1/2010 at 7:26 pm

I couldn't resist giving you a "Bear Hug!" DOC is a fictitious character I created that allows me to play the role of "Defender of Caregivers!" I would be honored if you would bring some of your con ...Read More

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meka gave a hug 5/28/2010 at 8:37 am

Roxie I'm going through that same kind of feeling sad about my parents declining also. I keep praying and asking God for the strength to carry on with their care. I know He'll send me some help soon ...Read More

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violette gave a hug 4/9/2010 at 6:21 pm

Roxie, boy do I know how you feel!!

Here is a big bear hug for you!!

The only advice I can give you is hire a 24/7 caregiver(s) for a three or four day weekend every three or fo ...Read More

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anne123 commented 3/19/2010 at 2:02 pm

Don't ask me why, Roxie, but when I saw just now that I had a hug from you, I got tears in my eyes.....Thank you!

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anne123 gave a hug 3/18/2010 at 9:54 am

Roxie, just saw your most recent post. Here's a hug for you! Buckets of support coming your way!

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tlcdherman gave a hug 3/11/2010 at 12:21 pm

Thank you for the info...wishing you a smile :)

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teristeve gave a hug 3/5/2010 at 9:24 am

Try to smile while giving care. It helps you and your loved one. I know they seem so unappreciative and are always so needy but they are so lucky that they have someone like you!

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lach61 gave a hug 3/3/2010 at 6:47 pm

I know what you mean about limited conversation. When I get her ready for the day, I get her dressed while she's on the toilet unless she peed or pooped on the b/r floor or anywhere in the b/r. She go ...Read More

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SecretSister gave a hug 3/3/2010 at 5:56 pm

Dear Rita,
I just read your latest post on "Needing to Vent," and posted there. Just know you are not alone, and I am praying for you. If there's anything else I can do, please let me ...Read More

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SecretSister commented 11/26/2009 at 10:44 am

Dear Roxie, praying your Thanksgiving is blessed!

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195Austin commented 11/3/2009 at 9:17 am

Roxie thank you so much for the hug and thoughtful note. I have been so busy fighting with my husbands union for half his pension they are trying to wear me down and hope I will go away -wrong they do ...Read More

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Netski commented 11/1/2009 at 1:24 pm

Hi Roxie,
Thanks for the reply....I am really glad I found this site & people like you, keep up the good work with your mom.
Netski

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195Austin commented 10/28/2009 at 8:25 am

Thank you for asking you were so supportive to me since I started on this site. I am doing ok it has been 4 months now since Richard died and am finally get the details fruther along his union is stil ...Read More

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Netski gave a hug 10/27/2009 at 6:32 pm

Hi Roxie,
I just got on this site a few minutes ago, and I want you to know you are not alone! My mother is still in her own home, but she has taken to becoming anxious at all hours of the night ...Read More

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Ponce gave a hug 10/20/2009 at 10:23 am

Roxie the first thing you need to know is that you are not alone! You have options out there and maybe it's time to look into those options. First of all look into Mom's insurance. There are adult ...Read More

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SecretSister gave a hug 10/19/2009 at 9:45 am

Dear Roxie, I'm sending you a star and hugs. Just read your post on "Needing to Vent." I can perfectly understand your feelings. Caregiving is not for sissies, and not easy, as you know. Hang ...Read More

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dbrown gave a hug 9/23/2009 at 12:52 pm

hang in there girl!

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Gave a hug to dahliaseason 9/13/2010 at 9:44 am

Thinking of you....

Commented on a discussion 9/13/2010 at 9:43 am

Early Grief and the Long Goodbye

I am so sorry you lost your love one. I know how you feel....I lost my mother in July of this year....It is a very difficult journey...I thought the caregiving was hard...this is harder because I do ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/31/2010 at 10:08 pm

I need financial help buying adult diapers for my mother who is on Social Security and medicare. Please help direct me to someone. Thank you

Through the Home Health in our town we was set up with Senior Care Services 800-678-5915..Call and see if they can help you.

Answered a question 8/20/2010 at 8:42 pm

Will it always hurt??

I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. I lost my mother July 2 of this year....That is my question will it always hurt.....
I have good and bad days.....but it seems as time goes on the da ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/20/2010 at 8:37 pm

A Journey of Hope After Loss

This article is what I was looking for....Thank You....
I lost my mother July2 of this year....We had a wonderful relationship because I think "it was just us" no father, no siblings.....We leane ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/20/2010 at 8:24 pm

Early Grief and the Long Goodbye

I completely understand the loss of a loved one. My mother passed away July 2 of this year on hospice. She had lived with me and my husband for 4 years...She had dementia which came with violent outb ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/19/2010 at 9:18 am

Early Grief and the Long Goodbye

The long process of watching your loved one decline is very painful. It was for me as I watched my mother decline over 3 years to the point she did not know where she was or who I was.....but on her ...Read More

Gave a hug to beyondfrustrated 7/1/2010 at 9:17 am

Thank you for your support....I will keep you in my prayers....May God bless you.....

Gave a hug to jaczyns1 7/1/2010 at 9:16 am

Thank you for your support...I will keep you in my prayers....May God Bless You

Gave a hug to SecretSister 7/1/2010 at 9:15 am

Thank you for your support.....Much appreciated....I will keep you in my prayers...

Commented on a discussion 6/29/2010 at 6:51 am

Needing to vent: Our parents are like children.

I just want to say to everyone thanks for all the support and discussions. I have enjoyed each and everyone of you. I pray for each and everyone of you and your love one. It does take a special per ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 6/2/2010 at 9:50 am

Needing to vent: Our parents are like children.

Sacrficingdaughter
I completely understand your situation. Even tho my mother has only lived with us for 4 years. There is help out there. Have you spoke to a doctor about the situation. The office may be able to put you in contact with an agency that can help... A homemaker that comes in for so many hours may be just what you need to get away.
I have just signed up for respite so my husband and I can get out of the house together and have a meal with the other world.
I totally understand the Walmart thing..I go 4 days a week alone to Walmart and believe me I can tell you when they stock their shelves and when they dont. My family tells me just get out of the house...well that is not the answer ....I am alone in taking care of my mother then I am alone going places....then I do not have the money to spend to make me feel better...I just window shop alone....
If the answer is to move your mother and aunt to a place then that is the answer, but you need someone to talk to first...do not make any decisions before thinking everything through and get yourself under control.....
Yes everyone wants their lives back I do, but right now I am here for my mother....and believe me there are days I just want to drop her off at a nursing home....but before I make a decision I sleep on it...and she is still in my home....that doesnt mean someday I will put her in a nursing home because I can not provide the care she needs.
She wants me every 15 minutes (she is bedridden) for something and usually its not anything at all. The last two weeks she could not get comfortable I was up for 3 days straight and believe me I was ready for the move.....but things have calmed down the last two days...
I have also lost all my friends due to the fact I have chosen to take care of my mother, but I do stay in touch with them through the computer. I just cant get out to visit with them.
Please try and contact either your physician or an agency in your area to help you.
I understand what you are going through just hang in there a little longer until you can find out some information for help.

Gave a hug to jlcadmtkct 5/13/2010 at 9:05 am

I know exactly what you are experiencing....I do not work so I do not have the added stress.
My mother does not sleep durning the day much maybe an hour, then she is up every 30 minutes durning ...Read More

Gave a hug to violette 4/9/2010 at 9:12 pm

Thank you for the hug....heres right back you.....take care....
We have to stick together....

Gave a hug to anne123 3/19/2010 at 10:25 am

Thanks so much...here is one for you...for being so kind...

Gave a hug to tlcdherman 3/11/2010 at 12:27 pm

Have a wonderful day......I hope I was able to help a little bit....

Answered a question 3/11/2010 at 8:28 am

Where can I find free pads for my mother's bladder problem?

I your family member on Medicaid...if so Medicaid will cover the cost of diapers, gloves, and pads....
Medicare does not....which is a total shame....

Answered a question 3/11/2010 at 8:23 am

My mother's doctor has recommended Megestrol to increase her appetite, and I'm worried about the side effects. Has anyone else had experience with this drug?

My mother was on megace at different times....It did increase her appetite with no side effects....She is not back to eating normally, so we have not given it to her for some time now...But she did fi ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 3/11/2010 at 8:22 am

I need financial help buying adult diapers for my mother who is on Social Security and medicare. Please help direct me to someone. Thank you

My mother is on Medicaid, therefore she does get diapers, and gloves at no cost to her....But it is because she is on Medicaid.....We live in Illinois....There are many places in our small town that w ...Read More

Gave a hug to SecretSister 3/6/2010 at 6:43 pm

Love your pic.....Thanks the hugs always feel good....

Gave a hug to lach61 3/6/2010 at 6:42 pm

Thanks for the hugs they mean so much.....

Wrote on teristeve's wall 3/6/2010 at 6:38 pm

Thank you so much.....I do try to smile and be in a happy mood when taking care of my mother.....She does tell I am a good mother because lately I have been Mom.....I miss the alert days I now just ha ...Read More

Gave a hug to SecretSister 3/4/2010 at 9:33 am

Thank you I hope this hug will comfort you today...and let you know I am thinking of you and your family.....

Wrote on SecretSister's wall 3/4/2010 at 9:29 am

Thank you so much.....you are such a dear.....

Commented on a discussion 3/3/2010 at 5:07 pm

Needing to vent: Our parents are like children.

Hello 195 Austin....How are you doing?
I am back on here needing to vent once again....
My mother has been in the hospital 3 times this year....
...Read More

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