Answered a question 7/22/2010 at 12:05 pm
I love my mother, but recently it has become harder to 'like' her. She has been abusive and accused me of theft and goodness knows what else. I have spoken to her about the nasty messages left on my a
...Read MoreI love my mother, but recently it has become harder to 'like' her. She has been abusive and accused me of theft and goodness knows what else. I have spoken to her about the nasty messages left on my answerphone, and she has been amazed i have been upset 'put it down to my being old' she says - but it is hard when i am all the family she has. She hides things because she said a neigbour was rummaging through her things, then whe the lady stopped visiting i got accused of moving, or taking things. She is not subtle with her accusationsand the fact she thinks so little of me hurts most of all.
When she is nasty i have to distance myself for a day or so - she has 2 neigbours who pop in so i know she is safe - that is the only way i can face her and not dislike her for what she is saying. It is so hard and we have both sat there cuddling crying our eyes out after one of her 'sessions' - the air clears, but she can ring up the next morning with another bee in her bonnet about something. As I said, I love my mother, but sometimes it is not an easy thing to do. All that keeps me from wanting to run is that it is only the last few months she has gone strange, and my grandmother was exactly the same only someone else suffered the flack. Old age can be cruel.