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punkersad
Age: 58
Gender: Female
Location: Crestwood, IL

I am caring for my mother, who is 82 years old, living at home and the primary ailment is alzheimer's / dementia.

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Happy National Family Caregivers Month!

National Family Caregivers month is about honoring yourself as one of the 65 million family caregivers in this country who take care of their loved o ...Read More

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Answered a question 2/3/2012 at 4:45 pm

My Mother needs in-home caregivers. Is there some kind of an insurance umbrella to protect against liability should a caregiver get hurt in her house?

I am hiring some one to work part time in my mothers home right now. If you pay more than $1800 per year you have to pay unemployment, medicare, social security. If you hire them full time you have to ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/3/2011 at 11:17 am

Are We Worrying about the Wrong Diseases?

I am a little confused on which they think is more important the alz and cancer which affects the quality of life for not only the patient but for everyone taking care of them and living with them, or ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 2/19/2011 at 10:53 pm

Bathing the Elderly

If you mother cannot get into the bathroom check out "Quick tips for Caregivers" and "The comforts of home." They are very good books that can help you with day to day stuff. They tell you how to do b ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 12/31/2010 at 7:57 pm

Bathing the Elderly

Sometimes it is pretty hard because some companies consider it handicap accessible if there are bars on the wall and toilet and the toilet is a little higher. There have been times even in the hospita ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 12/31/2010 at 10:06 am

Handling Criticism From Your Family

Someone has to protect your mother from you sister and since your other sister cant do it--- it is up to you. I dont like to argue either but I can be pretty protective of my mom so you do what you ha ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 11/21/2010 at 6:20 pm

Bathing the Elderly

My problem is the vinyl floor outside of the tub. They trip on the little rugs and slide on the floor when it gets wet. There are basically an uneven surface but since my mom is unsteady on her feet a ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 11/20/2010 at 11:14 pm

Bathing the Elderly

I am so glad that I am not alone with this problem. I thought that everyones parents bathed at least twice a week and most more often than that. My mom lets me give her a bath once every 2 weeks. She ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 11/8/2010 at 2:32 pm

Bathing the Elderly

My dad when he took a shower used his feet to determine whether the water was too hot or not. Then we found that he had nerve damage in his feet. At first we started running the water for him and then ...Read More

Answered a question 10/10/2010 at 4:43 pm

Anyone else tired of being told to "give it up to GOD" or that you are "being prayed for"...earnestly?

Give it up to God to me says I dont know the answer and I'm praying for you says "how dare you say that, I totally disagree and since I cannot change your mind then I hope that God will not (or maybe ...Read More

Answered a question 9/21/2010 at 11:07 am

As a trustee and decision maker when it coems to medical care, do I need my mother's consent to put her in as assisted care facility?

You cant make her do anything really. She has to decide unless she has been declared unfit to make the decision. It sounds like that has not happened. Is there any way that she will consent to have so ...Read More

Answered a question 9/20/2010 at 11:40 pm

As a trustee and decision maker when it coems to medical care, do I need my mother's consent to put her in as assisted care facility?

I have guardianship of my mother and I have to get the court's permission to move her anywhere unless it is an emergency like her getting kicked out of the hospital with no where to go. I dont think ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 9/20/2010 at 11:25 pm

Making the Most of a Doctor Visit About Your Loved One's Dementia

Wow. that sounds exactly what I go through every other month, the uti, the wheelchair and usually the er because my mom kind of zones out for about 2 hours and does not respond to anything. She gets l ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 9/20/2010 at 7:03 pm

What Do I Do if My Parent Refuses to Go to The Doctor?

Its funny that you use the judge to threaten your father. I use the judge to get my brother to pay rent to my mom. Otherwise he would gamble all of his money away and be a mooch. He is her baby so he ...Read More

Answered a question 9/18/2010 at 11:33 am

My mother-in-law keeps taking off the waterproof mattress pads and then wetting the bed. Where can I find a waterproof mattress?

check out vinyl mattresses in your search engine. They have camp beds and hospital beds etc. If you just use waterproof you dont find much but the word vinyl seems to pull up alot more sites for water ...Read More

Answered a question 9/15/2010 at 12:45 pm

70-year-old mother-in-law is hoarder and has spending problems. We have POA. How do we keep her from ruining herself financially?

I dont know-- unless you can get a doctor to say that she has deminished capacity I dont think there is much that you can do. There are different kinds of POA and most of them kick in when she is inca ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 9/15/2010 at 12:26 pm

Making the Most of a Doctor Visit About Your Loved One's Dementia

I used to have the same problems with my mom. The progression was, the doctor started to talk to me instead of to her, then she said i could not come in but she never remembered what he told her. Fina ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 9/13/2010 at 10:59 pm

Bathing the Elderly

I really think the calendar thing might work. We have a 7 day calendar made of metal whiteboard. The days of the week are black and yellow. easy to see. We have another black and yellow sheet with "to ...Read More

Answered a question 9/13/2010 at 10:48 pm

Has anyone tried EmFinders?

I havent tried it but I do have one concern. I think my dad would think it was a watch and get mad at it because it doesnt work. He would probably throw it across the room.

Commented on a discussion 9/13/2010 at 8:55 pm

Handling Criticism From Your Family

I generally say I love you mom and I am a good person. I then walk away for a while. That kind of gets her thinking about what she has said and she shuts up for a little while. It also helps me becaus ...Read More

Answered a question 9/8/2010 at 6:25 pm

My parent refuses to let me be guardian. Should I hire a lawyer to fight for guardianship?

I have guardianship for my mom. She was not the problem. She understood that she could not handle money or decide what to do for my Dad. When my dad was real sick she just kind of froze and would not ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 9/8/2010 at 5:18 pm

Can I donate unused medications?

that is a really good idea-- taking them to the vet. I never thought of that but i know my vet uses the same medicine. Thanks for the tip. I will check that out. They change my mom's meds so often to ...Read More

Answered a question 9/7/2010 at 8:57 pm

Does Medicare cover walk-in tubs?

per medicare.gov under home repair and modification.
Occupational and physical therapists are helpful in suggesting additional ways to adapt your home for safety and accessibility. Medicare does ...Read More

Answered a question 9/5/2010 at 12:29 am

If my mother moved in and is helping me out by paying some bills should I draw this up in a contract to protect both of us?

I can usually handle anything until people are nice to me. Then I fall apart. It is like they give me permission to just let go. I guess this group does that for me. It is a good place to get and give ...Read More

Answered a question 9/4/2010 at 8:20 pm

If my mother moved in and is helping me out by paying some bills should I draw this up in a contract to protect both of us?

I am just trying to follow what I think your question is. I might be all wrong but here goes. If I understand you right you initially thought you might need a contract because she was giving you money ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 8/31/2010 at 1:03 am

Why Listening Is the Caregiver's Secret Weapon

She has been to the hearing doctor who gave her 2 hearing aids, then gave her one hearing aid and finally she stepped on it and would not replace it. When she did have the aids on everything was too l ...Read More

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