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Mary (peacfrog27)
Age: 56
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Work full time at home and take care of 88 year old mom who broke hip, has stage 4 breast and lung cancer and has mild dementia.

I am caring for my mother, Shirley, who is 90 years old, living at my home and the primary ailment is cancer.

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AgingCareTeam gave a hug 11/1/2010 at 2:09 pm

Happy National Family Caregivers Month!

National Family Caregivers month is about honoring yourself as one of the 65 million family caregivers in this country who take care of their loved o ...Read More

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IsabelCares commented 8/26/2010 at 4:06 pm

Your hands are full. God bless you for caring for your Mom. It's time for nursing home placement. Sending positive thougths your way. It will be hard, regardless. Hugs.

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missymop gave a hug 7/12/2010 at 7:28 am

Thank you. I like all of your ideas. I wish my brother would disappear or move to Alaska so my parents would be safe.

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LyricaLady gave a hug 7/9/2010 at 12:02 pm

I am there with you in the same boat - work from home, and trying to do it all with Mom. The curse of those who work at home is nobody understands why it isn't always an ideal arrangement. I am thinki ...Read More

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mizunderstood10 gave a hug 6/15/2010 at 8:47 pm

I'm sorry this hug is a week late. I've been pretty down lately. I can so relate to your post about your sister. Thanks so much!!

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Answered a question 8/5/2011 at 10:58 am

Who should I go to for an Irrevocable Funeral Trust?

I went to the funeral home and they set me up. I have to say I am relieved to have these arrangements already made so I don't have to think about it when the time comes. Much less stressful to do th ...Read More

Asked a question 8/30/2010 at 11:47 am

My mother had moderate dementia and has developed this horrible habit of picking at herself non-stop creating sores. What can be done?

Answered a question 8/26/2010 at 3:41 pm

What is the best way to tell an elder they are going to a nursing home if they have early moderate dementia? My husband and I differ on it.

Stage 4 breast and lung cancer - reverse sleeping disorder and i have to go back to work are the reasons although I would never question another's decision when responding on this site.

Asked a question 8/26/2010 at 11:18 am

What is the best way to tell an elder they are going to a nursing home if they have early moderate dementia? My husband and I differ on it.

Asked a question 8/24/2010 at 11:04 am

When is the best time to tell an elder with early moderate dementia that she is moving to a nursing home?

My husband and I can't agree.

Answered a question 8/10/2010 at 10:41 am

My father was my mother's caretaker and he died 1 month ago. My mom is in denial that she has dementia. Is this normal?

My mother always tells the doctors she is fine even when she is not, and she has dementia. This seems to be the norm to me and also she was never really sick her whole life. She is 89 now. I firmly ...Read More

Asked a question 7/28/2010 at 3:16 pm

How do I deal with my mother's sleepless nights that cause her to wander and get into things?

Until I get my mother placed in a facility I need advice on dealing with wandering behavior, her getting into things, and sleepless nights.

Asked a question 7/26/2010 at 9:24 am

Is there any type of assistance I can apply for to get funds for a nursing home? My mother is not qualified for medicare or medicaid.

My mother is not qualified for medicare or medicaid.

Answered a question 7/13/2010 at 11:30 am

My mom has been wearing the same dirty shirt for a week now. How do I get her to shower and change when she refuses?

i can relate. Just have to make them do it. I try to walk in on her while she is using the bathroom that way she can't leave the bathroom and get past me. This morning she did ignore me, so I am te ...Read More

Answered a question 7/9/2010 at 12:10 pm

How can you keep a bad sibling from continually praying on your parents financially?

Get on your parents account as a joint account and get the financial POA. That is what I did. I kept mom pretty involved in the financial decisions until she no longer could make them and I was free ...Read More

Answered a question 7/9/2010 at 12:07 pm

My siblings don't contribute in caring for my father, and it's causing me to be resentful. How can I deal?

I can totally relate. My 2 siblings do nothing to help with mom. My one sister hasn't even come for Christmas for the last 10 years. I don't speak to her anymore and I really don't care. My brothe ...Read More

Answered a question 7/9/2010 at 11:54 am

I just can't do it anymore. I am so stressed from caring for my mom, am I a terrible person?

I can totally relate. My mom broke her hip, was diagnosed with stage 4 breast and lung cancer and dementia. The dementia is killing me. Up every two hours all day and all night. I had a work at ho ...Read More

Answered a question 6/17/2010 at 10:43 am

My mom complains and wonders all day, what activates can she do so that I can get something’s done?

My mother has dementia and is barely capable of doing anything. She was an avid reader and can't read now or follow the TV. I tried very easy 100 piece jigsaw puzzles. This has helped so much. It ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 6/8/2010 at 1:35 pm

I'm Angry With My Sister

I can relate. I have a sister like this who does nothing - I call her the invisible sibling - and she only lives a half hour away. I don't know how she lives with herself. My mother is living with ...Read More

Asked a question 6/8/2010 at 1:30 pm

Is Alzheimers and Dementia the same thing?

Asked a question 5/5/2010 at 11:24 am

My mother puts sugar on everything and it seems that she gets on sugar highs. Can too much sugar be bad for her?

My 89 year old mother appears to be on a sugar high. She puts sugar on everything & in juice drinks. Do meds cause this? What do I do?

Answered a question 4/19/2010 at 10:31 am

My mother picks at her legs constantly, causing them to bleed. I clean them, bandage them and yet she continues to pick away. What can I do?

thanks for the suggestions. My mother also pulls out IVs and did that when in the hospital and during her herceptin IV drip. Very frustrating. She also does pick at her face - any body part will do ...Read More

Asked a question 4/16/2010 at 9:58 pm

My mother picks at her legs constantly, causing them to bleed. I clean them, bandage them and yet she continues to pick away. What can I do?

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