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PCVS

Artist, Philosopher, Rogue Astronomer

I am caring for my mother, who is 86 years old the primary ailment is alzheimer's / dementia.

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Thank you. What kind of photos do you like to take?

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JonathninOregon gave a hug 2/5/2012 at 11:02 pm

What a concept! Therapeutic fibbing. Never heard that one before, but I've used it many times on my mother-in-law before she died. Can't use it on my wife, tho. (She'd kill me if I got caught). Yes, d ...Read More

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loridtabbykat gave a hug 1/22/2012 at 12:25 am

Here's a hug to all of us!

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CrystalBtrfly gave a hug 10/23/2011 at 12:50 am

Sending positive vibes your way. Have a nice weekend!

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christina28 commented 10/19/2011 at 10:08 pm

Hi Pat-- checking in. I've been gone for a while. Think I'm back. Placed Mother in care home for good on Aug. 20. Regrouping. I'm a depressed yo-yo. Transitioning to I don't know what at this point. S ...Read More

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Seastar commented 10/14/2011 at 7:23 pm

thank you for the hug! right back at you - it's been a tough week!

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emjo commented 9/8/2011 at 12:07 pm

also added my face book url to my profile

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emjo commented 9/8/2011 at 12:04 pm

Hi - I changed my privacy permissions - see if searching my name and location works now

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emjo commented 9/7/2011 at 9:58 pm

Joan Benoit - location Fort McMurray AB .I have just put up the same pic of me as here to make it easier. Also just uploaded my Hinton (the rockies) pics - like some of them - especially the little cr ...Read More

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emjo commented 9/7/2011 at 4:53 pm

If that question is for me -I like the forest, trees, flowers,leaves, mountains, my man's horses, and family type shots. I live across from the woods and love walking on the trails and seeing and phot ...Read More

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lesl1234 gave a hug 9/6/2011 at 11:35 am

Thank you PCVS!

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emjo commented 8/16/2011 at 8:41 pm

Wanted to adg that I visited your website and very much enjoyed it. I love photography!

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emjo commented 8/16/2011 at 8:32 pm

Thanks for posting and clarifying. Life is hard enough as it is and best to try to get along and, yes definitely, support the original poster.

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PCVS posted 8/16/2011 at 6:26 pm

Angst? She has angst over this shit? She needs to get over her religious right narrow-mindedness. I don't have time to play games with her.

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emjo commented 8/16/2011 at 2:57 pm

Hi PCVS - I am sorry that you found my post on jules's thread offensive. To clarify, in no way was I suggesting that everyone does or should have the same beliefs, I was simply responding to jules' p ...Read More

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christina28 commented 8/16/2011 at 2:17 pm

Hi Pat, I lost you for a while, and see you again. Whew. Saw your post. Narrow-minded dogmatic primitives still exist after years of caregiving and abuse. How are you? I have been so distracted with M ...Read More

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cmagnum commented 8/14/2011 at 1:41 pm

Thanks for the star.

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newtonjoyce gave a hug 7/16/2011 at 11:12 am

It is hard to separate from family. You are appreciated for what you do.

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JuneFletcher gave a hug 6/29/2011 at 3:11 pm

Me, too.
Whatever brought your day down, I hope it has passed now. Here's another hug!

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JuneFletcher gave a hug 6/29/2011 at 2:46 pm

I appreciate your kind words. Thank you so much! June

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christina28 commented 6/9/2011 at 12:15 pm

Hi Pat, I have not forgotten to send you photo of necklace. Got a bit distracted his week with having to bring Mother back to our home and living with my graft surgery. Just when you think you cannot ...Read More

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j4deetz911 commented 6/5/2011 at 2:39 pm

Exactly! Keep your sense of humor and don't encourage your brother to drive . . . :)

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PCVS posted 6/4/2011 at 7:24 pm

I had to think about that when I saw it. I was wondering at first what math had to do with anything. Things should not think for people.

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christina28 commented 6/4/2011 at 6:15 pm

Oh-- I wrote "detoxing" and my lovely iPhone assumed I meant "deriving". I hate it when that happens. Think I am detoxing. There.

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christina28 commented 6/4/2011 at 6:13 pm

Hi PC, I really liked your comment on the "people skills" article today. Needed to hear it. Thank you, oh wise one. Some days I am wise, but not today. Low bio energy. Had tissue grafting on my gums T ...Read More

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christina28 commented 5/30/2011 at 1:20 pm

Hi PC, wow! Briefly visited your website on my iPhone !! Will go there later on my laptop. Mother has a piece similar to the woven beads. Needs work, but is it possible? More later. Hugs, Christina

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Gave a hug to JonathninOregon 2/6/2012 at 2:35 pm

I wish I could take credit for the idea but I can't. A VNA support group facilitator told me about it originally. I've taken it to heart, though, and it has made a huge difference with maintaining my ...Read More

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Commented on a discussion 2/3/2012 at 3:46 pm

12 Handy Apps for Caregivers

As a cash strapped caregiver, I don't own a mobile phone, (however much I might want to have one - especially for emergencies!).

Commented on a discussion 2/1/2012 at 5:28 pm

What is a Trust?

We need a lot more than this. Let's start with belongings of very little value to anyone outside the family. Said family wishes to avoid Probate Court. Does a trust have to name every individual fork ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 1/25/2012 at 6:10 am

What is a Will and Why Should Every Senior Have One?

I've heard that Trusts are much better than Wills because they can make it possible to avoid probate court. This is a valid concern whether there is money involved or not.

Gave a hug to loridtabbykat 1/21/2012 at 9:23 pm

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Answered a question 1/19/2012 at 10:13 pm

All my mother does is sleep all day and night. I can't get her to do anything. Is this normal?

I hope the counselor can help you. This is a very sad situation. Please let us know how things go, at least. My thoughts are with you and your mother.

Answered a question 1/18/2012 at 8:55 pm

All my mother does is sleep all day and night. I can't get her to do anything. Is this normal?

Also, maybe something triggered depression around Christmas time? You might want to check that out through careful conversing.

Commented on a discussion 1/18/2012 at 10:31 am

Glaucoma Can Steal 40% of Vision Before the Person Notices

I'd be more impressed if the writer knew the difference between "site" and "sight." (See their phrase, "...site-stealing [sic] disease."

Answered a question 1/16/2012 at 11:29 am

All my mother does is sleep all day and night. I can't get her to do anything. Is this normal?

Adult Day Care is great because they get their clients involved in activities. My mother goes 3 times a week and she really does enjoy it. I bring her in in the morning and she is greeted by name, giv ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 1/14/2012 at 5:09 pm

Keeping Seniors Busy & Active

Poor thing! How about crossword puzzles you do together. Discuss the clues and so on and you do the writing down.

Commented on a discussion 1/14/2012 at 1:12 pm

"Spending Down" to Medicaid: One Caregiver's Personal Journey

I have PoA for my mother who has Alzheimers (advanced). Her case worker for the Connecticut Homecare for Elders told me she is now elegible for Title XIX and she was going to put in paper work to star ...Read More

Answered a question 1/14/2012 at 11:01 am

Has anyone had a good result from using coconut oil in treating the symptoms of Alzheimers, dementia, or Parkinsons?

She does indeed eat chocolate. I'll give that candy recipe a try, thank you! :)

Answered a question 1/11/2012 at 8:25 am

Is there a problem with a 90 year old falling asleep in their chair many times during the day, and then sleeping all night?

Oh I am going to try this breathing exercise with my mother. For myself, I recently remembered something from Hatha Yoga - the HA! breath. It's a bit more physical than my mother can handle (you stan ...Read More

Gave a hug to Mollie90 1/11/2012 at 8:20 am

I plan on being alert, too. But I am going to try that breathing exercise for my mom a few posts up.

Commented on a discussion 1/10/2012 at 11:13 am

Ten Reasons Why Your Aging Parent May Not Be Eating Properly

Does your state have anything like a Homecare for Elders program that can pay for the majority of a companion/homemaker to come in and see that she at least has breakfast and lunch (and do household c ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 1/7/2012 at 5:32 pm

Dad's Sense of Reality is Gone. What Do I Do?

I am so scared that my mama will start asking for her parents. I am always careful to call her Mama so that she will have that information at hand and not wonder who I am and therefore where her own p ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 1/7/2012 at 4:43 pm

How to Write a Eulogy

At the funerals I've been to (Jewish) we are asked if there is anyone who wants to get up and speak. I spoke at my grandfather's funeral with no prep but I wanted people to know what he meant to me. I ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 1/7/2012 at 9:28 am

Fire Safety for Elders with Special Health Needs

Two exits from every room? Are you living in the same real world that I am? From my mother's bedroom there is the door to the hall and ... a window. If the hallway is blocked and I'm not in her bedro ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 1/7/2012 at 9:19 am

How do I get mom to wear an adult diaper when she refuses?

Call them "panties." Just because they are padded paper doesn't mean they aren't "undies" same as cotton or silk or any other fabric. After all, would you want to wear diapers?!

Commented on a discussion 1/4/2012 at 1:36 pm

How often should I visit mom when she first moves into the nursing home?

My mother is still at home with me but I have visited a care facility that has units for Dementia patients just to get her on the waiting list. The facility is Masonicare in Wallingford CT and when I ...Read More

Answered a question 12/31/2011 at 5:52 am

All my mother does is sleep all day and night. I can't get her to do anything. Is this normal?

Like Carol72156, I have found that initiating activities is something my Mama can no longer do for herself and that sleep is her way of reacting to the boredom that ensues if she has nothing to keep ...Read More

Commented on a discussion 12/28/2011 at 2:00 pm

11 Ways to Stop Caregiver-Related Depression

Contact your region's Area Agency on Aging (or similar). If either of you served in the armed services, you should also contact your nearest VA advocate. You can't do this alone!

Gave a hug to shamrock13 12/17/2011 at 8:21 am

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