PEACE2 commented
5/18/2009 at 7:30 am
I HAVE THREE SIBLINGS. TWO LIVE IN VIRGINIA, ONE BEING MY SISTER, AND THE OTHER A BROTHER. I HAVE A THIRD BROTHER WHO LIVES IN GEORGIA. ALTHOUGH WE DO NOT LIVE IN THE SAME STATE, AND I STEPPED UP TO T
...Read MoreI HAVE THREE SIBLINGS. TWO LIVE IN VIRGINIA, ONE BEING MY SISTER, AND THE OTHER A BROTHER. I HAVE A THIRD BROTHER WHO LIVES IN GEORGIA. ALTHOUGH WE DO NOT LIVE IN THE SAME STATE, AND I STEPPED UP TO THE PLATE AND BECAME THE PRIMARY CAREGIVE, BESIDES TAKING CARING OF HER 97 YR OLD HUSBAND OF 20 YRS, I AM LOSING MY MIND. NO, THEY DON'T EVEN CALL ME, THEY WANT NO PART OF BEING INVOLVED WITH MY MOTHER AND STEP FATHER. IT IS HORRIBLE DOING THIS ALONE EXCEPT FOR A GREAT SUPPORTIVE HUSBAND. IT MUST BE GREAT TO JUST BE ABLE TO CALL YOUR SIBLINGS, AND BLOW OFF SOME STEAM, AND MAYBE THEY CALL YOUR MOM, AND TRY TO HELP OUT IN SOME WAY. YOU SAID YOUR SIBLINGS LIVE ABOUT 3 1/2 HOURS AWAY FROM EACH OTHER, SO THEY ARE NOT IN THE SAME STATE AS YOU. EVEN IF MY SIBLINGS WERE IN THE SAME STATE AS ME, WOULDN'T GET ANY SUPPORT FROM THEM. I JUST WANT A PHONE CALL SAYING, HEY, KATHY WE ARE HERE FOR YOU, ARE YOU STILL ALIVE, OR HAVE THEY KILLED YOU YET. LOL DO SOMETHING. NEVER HAD A BAD RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. SINCE I TOOK THIS ON TWO YEARS AGO, THE DYNAMICS OF THE FAMILY CHANGED TOTALLY. I AM NOW STARTING A DEMENTIA SUPPORT GROUP, AND AM GOING TO MEET WITH A SOCIAL WORKER, TO HELP ME OUT A LITTLE. BEEN DOING SOME THINGS ON MY OWN, SO I DON'T LOSE MY SANITY ALL TOGETHER, BUT IT TOOK TWO YEARS OF GUILT. GUILTY ABOUT, I DON'T KNOW, JUST STUPID GUILT. YOU ARE VERY LUCKY TO HAVE FAMILY WHO CARE. KATHY
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