Answered a question 12/2/2009 at 4:22 pm
To Kayepeannyc so sorry for your loss. I had a similair situation last year, Dad was Moms main caregiver for awhile but he began declining with emphysema. Mom had a stroke 3 years prior and needs h
...Read MoreTo Kayepeannyc so sorry for your loss. I had a similair situation last year, Dad was Moms main caregiver for awhile but he began declining with emphysema. Mom had a stroke 3 years prior and needs help walking, toileting, meals. My sis up North was sickly, Dad died in April, sis died in May, leaving mom alone in the house with a big dog. I lived the down the street and the out of state family asked "What are You going to do?" I abandoned my home and now live there with Mom, have to, but still have belongings in both places. I also work full time weekends so its tough. I have no life of my own, can go out 2-3 hrs at a time, unless I have a caregiver or my fiance to sit with her. ..which means we rarely go out together. See if hospice in your state is an option, some states do have Adult Failure to Thrive as a hospice Dx. The can get u and your sister some respite, volunteers, CNA's to assist. If not, see what medicare or medicaid offers. Her physician may be able to assit. Keep in mind, many physicians are not up on the hospice criteria so if Dr says no, inquire yourself to be sure.