Commented on a discussion 8/22/2010 at 7:38 pm
You deserve praise for looking out for your folks, but it sounds like your sibs are not giving it much time or thought. I also am caring for my Dad from my home in Maryland to his in Florida. He has A
...Read MoreYou deserve praise for looking out for your folks, but it sounds like your sibs are not giving it much time or thought. I also am caring for my Dad from my home in Maryland to his in Florida. He has Alzheimer's and has a full time caregiver.
I don't know the financial situation, but the biggest help to me has been the geriatric care manage who is in Florida. She goes to his doctor appointments, keeps an eye on Dad's physical condition and the condition of his condo (clean, looking healthy, appropriate clothes, decent groceries in the refrig, whatever you need checked.) You might try suggesting to your sibs that you split the cost of a care manager between you. A good care manager will be able to coordinate obtaining any other care that is required, such as a part time caregiver, cleaning service, visiting nursing or whatever might be helpful. This may encourage your sibs to realize that someone has to do the care, and it will come out of their pockets if they are not able/willing to help.
Whatever happens, I wish you a lot of luck with caring for your folks. I know how frustrating it is to be such a distance away, but it shows you have a kind and caring heart.
mdladytenor