naheaton commented
3/29/2010 at 1:23 am
I certainly understand being grateful that you don't have it as bad as many others do. I also feel that way. I am amazed at how many caregivers are pulling their hair out with ungrateful, demanding,
...Read MoreI certainly understand being grateful that you don't have it as bad as many others do. I also feel that way. I am amazed at how many caregivers are pulling their hair out with ungrateful, demanding, narcissistic parents. I am so thankful that my mother-in-law, although a little ditzy with the memory thing, is for the most part a very nice person. We take her with us to church every Sunday, then back to our house for breakfast. Today, she stood in the kitchen with me and started saying how much she hated where she's living. Then she called later and apologized, saying that she didn't want to take it out on me, and she knows how much we all are doing for her. At first I didn't even know what she was talking about because I dismiss what she says about the hating the place thing. I told her 'I know what you're saying. You want to go back in time to when you had your eye sight, your husband, and you lived in your little house," She said yep. I told her she could grouse to me anytime, I can take it. We told each other we loved each other, and now it's done (for now) She will say the same thing at least once a week, but it always means the same. The best thing we ever did was to find her an asst living place. She wasn't taking her pills correctly, had fallen more than once (breaking hip) and was REALLY lonely. She hates it, but she knows she has to be there. I wish it were different too.
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