Answered a question 2/2/2010 at 5:06 pm
yes, you are right she does feel lonely and very concerned with her health and future. she does not want to join any groups she does not socialize with lunch, dinner or outings unless it is me. i woul
...Read Moreyes, you are right she does feel lonely and very concerned with her health and future. she does not want to join any groups she does not socialize with lunch, dinner or outings unless it is me. i would love to spend time with her when she is nice, not mad at me and not complaining about everything. she is mad i know because i saw my husbands family for new years day. i saw my mom for christmas eve, christmas day, day after christmas. my family went away to pennsylvania to see my son in a hockey tournament. i get back day before new years eve and invited her over for new years eve for a little while or dinner she declined. i told her i was going to see my husbands family to exchange gifts for new years day. she did not talk to me on new years day or the day after. i was home all weekend thought we could spend time together, told her but she did not want to speak to me since she was hurt i didn't see her new years day. weeks later she brought it up again and she said i really hurt her not seeing her i said i was sorry she was hurt but i never said i would see her new years day and that i had the weekend to spend time with her. now she refers to that as, she can not believe how i treat her, how she raised me and the things i have been saying to her and treating her the past few months. so to all if this seems like a horrible act please let me know---
she is not happy with doctors, we talk and i make appointments for her, change my work schedule and she said how about the other doctor and i don't want to do it anymore. how about she wants to look for a dog, and she buys the items and looks to pick it up over the weekend after i go with her to look at the dog, (this is about the 5th dog she has wanted, i am embarrassed to go in to the pet shop again). i ask her to go to dinner, she says its too crowded and we go to the mall-which is fine. i can't do it anymore. she is unhappy with her life she told me i have it better than her and everyone in her family has it better than her and she is the only one who has to work when she is sick. she is worried about finances but i can't make these major decisions for her..an attorney told her she needed a therapist, the pharmacist said to me,she either comes in crying or screaming. this is not me, i am seeing a therapist because my mom won't and she said i need to stop trying to make my mom happy. she doesn't want to be happy. and now the therapist is going to help me, see i am an only child and my mothers family is not local. she keeps saying she has no one to help her, no one to take care of her. she is 62 y/o and able to work (did i mention she hates her job) but it is hard but what would she do at home if she doesn't socialize. i don't know what to do??? but yes you are right she is lonely and afraid of her future....but what am i suppost to do??