anonymous11306 commented
8/31/2010 at 4:20 pm
Here's my report on today's therapy session.
That was one powerful therapy session and he let me have extra time because I had a lot extra to unload. I came home and discussed this with my
...Read MoreHere's my report on today's therapy session.
That was one powerful therapy session and he let me have extra time because I had a lot extra to unload. I came home and discussed this with my wife. I put in my movie that I forgave my mother for absorbing me into herself like an emotional spouse both as a single mom and then in her second marriage, plus trying her best not to raise me as an all American boy like her ex wanted to. Thus, my confused identity comes from the confused way she raised me plus her using me like an emotional partner/spouse. So, and my wife and I concluded this is why we are both comfortable with our rather non traditional marriage in which we really have some basic role reversals which the home she came from fits with how to tell the truth I was raise part like a gril and part like a boy. My conclusion is my mom was in bondage to something that happened in her life and I forgive her for that. My final conclusion is that I am finally comfortable with how I turned out as my therapist, SIL, and some of my friends have said, I really function more like the wife and the mom in this household which is ok with me and I'm no longer angry at God and mom making me that way. My wife on the other hand does not fit the stereotype feminine submissive wife either which my mother certainly was not. So, as we talked today and she wanted to make sure that I'm ok with all this, our non-traditional role reversal family works for us, we like it and we like how our marriage works plus we recognize that neither of us could have been married to a stereotypical person of the opposite sex because neither of us fits completely those stereotypes. There are things that I do which reflect the lack of intimacy with my dad plus the confused identity with my mother. My wife recognizes that and as long as I stay with the boundaries that I've set with myself, she is fine with it because she understands it. The same thing is true with her as well and I give her some extra space their. Nothing immoral or illegal but a little something that helps each of us with our issues.
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