Commented on a discussion 6/6/2010 at 10:18 pm
I am dealing with my mother-in-law's abusive behavior. She has a history of causing family problems even before the advent of her dementia. She has disrupted our home since she moved in one year ago.
...Read MoreI am dealing with my mother-in-law's abusive behavior. She has a history of causing family problems even before the advent of her dementia. She has disrupted our home since she moved in one year ago. She made the last year of my dad's life miserable, and now is focusing her hate on me. My father moved in with us first almost 12 years ago, and just recently passed away.
She feels safest with my husband, which I guess is understandable. I am coping by insisting on 4 hour respite stays of once per week, weekend stays once per month, and week long stays once or twice per year. I don't know if this will be enough, but it is a start. I refuse to expose myself to her abuse, which unfortunately puts more pressure on my husband. I would like to see her move out to be honest, but I won't force that decision. I can say I won't ever forget the grief she caused my father.