Answered a question 2/4/2010 at 10:59 pm
Hi, I know exactly what you are going through, because I'm going through it right now too. My mom moved in in aug. still trying to adjust, I had been off of work for a year before she moved in ,was a
...Read MoreHi, I know exactly what you are going through, because I'm going through it right now too. My mom moved in in aug. still trying to adjust, I had been off of work for a year before she moved in ,was a year too myself because my son had just graduated now both my kids were grown up and now my life was mine, don't know if you now about that feeling you get when that happens its very bittersweet, was just getting ready to look for a job when my mom asked if she could move in always knew this day would happen but didn't it would happen so quickly and at this time in my life, so I have some resentment going on. I'm only 48 and my day is spent sitting in the livingroom watching tv, sometimes I don't even say anything for long periods of time because I'm dreaming that I wish I was somewhere else, then the guilt comes somedays my emotions are a total wreck, I try really hard not to let it show so much in front of her because I don't want to hurt her feelings, and she had been good to my all my life but she also can be very selfish, it's like I know she truly believes this is my duty, I wait on her hand and foot she's starting not to get anything for herself, I've been to the er with her 3 times since she's been here, that had turned out to be not serious but when its happening I thought she was dying the way she was acting, was just there sun nite from 1am to 9 am no sleep all night, so I'm wondering about the drama she was in pain but it was just a muscle strain and she was screaming in pain and then all of a sudden when she wanted to leave so she could smoke a cigerette she was alot better. So that's my story and I also end up stealing a hour or so here and there all day long to go up in my room and just shut the door and breathe, sometimes I cry sometimes I nap sometimes I talk on the phone, whatever I need and I tell her that I'm going to go up and clean I should have the cleanest upstairs but I don't because I'm stealing time for just me I would go insane without it so don't feel guilty because I don't want to feel guilty. If you can get somebody to come and help go for it but I have siblings who say they'll help but it doesn't really happen too much, my sister said she could take her for a weekend but I have a feeling my mom is gonna say she doesn't want to how do I handle that one.