PEACE2 commented
5/9/2009 at 11:42 am
JEN, THANKS FOR RESPONDING. I SO NEED TO TALK TO PEOPLE. MY HUSBAND HAS SAID THE SAME THING YOU SAID IN THAT MY SIBLINGS KNOW. SAD ABOUT WHAT YOU TOLD ME ABOUT A FAMILY MEMBER WHO IS BEING LEFT ALONE,
...Read MoreJEN, THANKS FOR RESPONDING. I SO NEED TO TALK TO PEOPLE. MY HUSBAND HAS SAID THE SAME THING YOU SAID IN THAT MY SIBLINGS KNOW. SAD ABOUT WHAT YOU TOLD ME ABOUT A FAMILY MEMBER WHO IS BEING LEFT ALONE, BECAUSE OF MONEY. MY HUSBAND HAS ALSO SAID TO ME, KATHY, YOU WAIT, WHEN THE TIME COMES THAT THEY PASS ON, THEY WILL BE AT MY FRONT DOOR WANTING THEIR SHARE OF AN INHERITANCE, AND IF THEY FEEL IT IS NOT EQUAL THEY WILL DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE SURE THEY GET IT. IN THE BEGINNING, I SAID, NO, THEY WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH ANY CARE GIVING AT ALL, BUT THEY NEVER WERE THERE, AREN'T NOW, AND I AM, AND ALWAYS HAVE, AND THEY KNOW IT, SO THEY ARE NOT LOOKING FOR MONEY, BUT SADLY, WHEN THE TIME COMES, THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT WILL HAPPEN. I WOULD PUT THEM IN ASSISTED LIVING, BUT I KNOW THAT IS NOT WHAT THEY WOULD WANT, AND WOULD BE DEVASTATED IF I EVEN SUGGESTED THIS. BOTH MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN KILLING OURSELVES TO TRY TO MAKE THEIR LAST DAYS AS HAPPY OR CONTENTED AS POSSIBLE. NOTHING WE DO IS GOOD ENOUGH, AND THEN ON TOP OF THAT WE ARE VERBALLY ABUSED. MY 3 SIBLINGS DID SEND MY MOTHER FLOWERS, CANDY, AND COOKIES FOR MOTHER'S DAY. GUESS THEY FEEL THEY DID THEIR PART, AND MY MOTHER THINKS THEY ARE THE GREATEST. MAKES EXCUSES FOR THEM. SHE WILL CALL EACH OF THEM AND THANK THEM SO MUCH FOR THEIR GIFTS, AND NEVER DOES SHE SHOW THEM THE SIDE OF HER THAT I SEE. HOW SHE CAN CONTROL THE DEMENTIA WHILE SPEAKING TO THEM, AND NOT WITH ME, I WILL NEVER KNOW. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE BEEN LIVING SUCH A FAIRY TALE LIFE. WHERE HAVE I BEEN. THANKS FOR LISTENING TO ME. THIS IS A GREAT SITE, AND FOR THE BRIEF TIME I HAVE BEEN ON, EVERYONE IS SO GREAT, AND IT IS HELPING TO KEEP MY SANITY.
KATHY
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