Commented on a discussion 2/15/2010 at 4:33 am
i am struggling with getting my father to even see his gp. he simply refuses to go. if i got the gp to visit he would ask him to leave and refuse to see him. he exhibits some dementia but can "put on
...Read Morei am struggling with getting my father to even see his gp. he simply refuses to go. if i got the gp to visit he would ask him to leave and refuse to see him. he exhibits some dementia but can "put on a show " for visitors and make me fell like im the one who struggles with what day it is!! his temper can sometimes leave a lot to be desired and my mum is living on her nerves. he has said sometimes a black cloud follows him and then cant remember saying it. he has taken off his jumper and socks, folded them quite neatly in front of him and was then seen to nod frequently as if in a conversation with someone. we cannot trick him into seeing gp as he would get up and walk out. Can i go over his head the gp sont speak to me without his permission and he has no history of mental health. my mum is in denial but is scared that once we all go home he will berate her. he has never hit her but his mood swings can be just as terrifying. how can this gently loving man who was every inch the fantastic father be so selfish. he says he feels unwell and apologises profusely when he does something out of character and when we ask him to see the gp he just simply refuses and says he is ok now and not to interfere. my mum will not last much longer she is stick thin and living on her nerves. she is still working at 75 just to get out of the house and when she comes home she is just constantly running aroung after him. my dad is 81 this year and he could live for a long while yet but my mum will simply drop. she will not leave him for abreak as he cannot do everyday tasks. he has bad knees and he had a triple bypass many years back and is still on medication. please help!!