Commented on a discussion 3/18/2010 at 3:14 pm
hello everyone...long time since I posted. Well, here's what has happened since Jan. 1. I have placed mom in an AL center. And after 3 months, she loves it! The only way I was able to get her to go
...Read Morehello everyone...long time since I posted. Well, here's what has happened since Jan. 1. I have placed mom in an AL center. And after 3 months, she loves it! The only way I was able to get her to go to AL was by threatening to take her to court and obtain guardianship over her. Two of her primary care physicians told me they would write letters on my behalf expressing to the judge that mom was no able to live alone to her Parkinson's issues and her increasing dementia. When I told mom what the doctors were willing to do and the fact that judges usually side with recommendations by doctors in guardianship cases, she begrundingly agree to leave her home. I must admit the day I moved her in was difficult. Maybe the most trying and emotionally upsetting of my 55 years. I stayed with her for 3 days after her move to ensure she was comfortable and had everything she needed. I can share with you that after three months, mom is happy, has made many friends, and her emotional health seems to be much improved. The key for this miraculous turnound was having the full support and blessing of her doctor's (in writing) and the fact that Probate/Family court would rule in my favor. I feel terrible that I had to threaten mom to get her to move out, but in the end it was the best strategy for both of us. I guess you could say it was a "win-win" situation.