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1/28/2010 at 10:36 am
Thanks for giving me the male perspective. You certainly gave me a lot to think about. As for your thoughtful suggestions, you mentioned things, such as an Alzhimer's support group, that I have been
...Read MoreThanks for giving me the male perspective. You certainly gave me a lot to think about. As for your thoughtful suggestions, you mentioned things, such as an Alzhimer's support group, that I have been considering but have not taken steps to do yet. Thanks for the prod. I know I should get help and support, but finding time for these things is hard when you're the sole caregiver to someone who needs care 24/7. I have sought a lot of info and guidance online, but that isn't the same as talking face to face with people who can relate to the problems I am experiencing. Plus, I know I need to get out more, but that would mean leaving hubby alone with Mom. He is great, and he would do it without complaint, but I don't want to make the situation any more stressful for him than it already is. If my brother would make Mom's money accessable to us we could hire someone to stay with her so we could go out occasionally. As for putting Mom in a facility, I have not been able to get past the fact that we promised her years ago that we would never do that to her. I know that a lot of kids make that promise not knowing what the future holds. As bad as her dementia is, she still knows her kids and relates to them. That makes it very hard to leave her in a place where she doesn't know anyone. She has had to be hospitalized twice in the last few months, and she was terrified in the new surroundings with so many strangers around. The last time I had to stay with her until the staff gave her sleeping pills at night. Even then, she woke up during the night crying and calling for me. This gives me some insight into what it would be like for her if I put her in a facility. I do realize, however, that I will have some tough decisions to make in the months ahead. I cannot disagree with anything that you said. I appreciate your candidness. I was enlightening to hear a man's point of view.
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