Commented on a discussion 1/6/2010 at 6:51 am
Bree, I understand where you are coming from. My 81-year old mother's memory has been rapidly declining over the past couple of years. She won't acknowledge it, and she won't follow her doctor's adv
...Read MoreBree, I understand where you are coming from. My 81-year old mother's memory has been rapidly declining over the past couple of years. She won't acknowledge it, and she won't follow her doctor's advice for more testing. We've visisted all kinds of independent living facilities, but I've finally realized that what she needs is assisted living. We spent an afternoon at a wonderful facility several months ago, and she liked it. I've been working with a woman there who is working on my mom, to get her to go and visit again. She agreed several days ago, and last night when the woman called her to confirm her pickup time, my mom said no, she's not going to do anything right now. She is unable to make any major decisions. One day I'm the amazing daughter, and the next day she accuses me of not wanting to help her or spend time with her anymore. She is bitter and angry, and won't do anything to help herself, and she will not accept any kind of help from my brothers or me. I struggle every day to try and figure out whether I should call her or not, because I never know what I will be faced with. I am wracked with guilt (have been my whole life), and have always felt, since I was little, that I had to make her life better. Some days I just want to give up and walk away. I'm damned if I do, and damned if I don't. Just reading this posts is helpful. Hang in there, pray, and reach out to whoever you can find to help you. Fortunately, the woman at the assisted living facility is helping me. I find that to be rare.