Answered a question 10/13/2010 at 12:39 pm
Dear Trying,
My mother lives with me and though I do not experience the issues you do, there are times I wish she was not so dependent on me. It seems like all I do is take care of her and have n
...Read MoreDear Trying,
My mother lives with me and though I do not experience the issues you do, there are times I wish she was not so dependent on me. It seems like all I do is take care of her and have no life of my own. It sounds to me that your parents are acting no different than they did when they were younger, so changing them or making them understand how you feel likely will not happen. They are abusive to you because it is their nature and they know they can get away with it. As difficult as it may be, I suggest you tell them their unhappiness with you is affecting your health, walk away, and get counseling for yourself. I have told my children repeatedly that when I get to the point that I cannot live on my own to put me in a facility. I do not want to become a burden or take away from their lives. (Also, depending on the size of the city you live in, there should be volunteer transportation sevices, house cleaning, etc. through the county health department at little to no charge. If your parents refuse to accept, that is their problem.) I hope you find peace.