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Kathy (deefer12)
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Location: Ware, MA

Left my job in May 2008 when Mom came home from 4 week stay at nursing home.Took a 12 week Family Medical Leave but it became apparent she needed full time care so quit my job when siblings asked me to care for Mom.We live in a 4 family appt house that Mom owns.My appt is next to hers so I can easily check on her.Also have a baby monitor on 24/7.I cook her meals,do shopping and help with house work.I take her to all her appointments and make sure she gets her meds 4 times a day.I also pay her bi...Read More

I am caring for my mother, Constance, who is 84 years old, living at home and the primary ailment is parkinson's.

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christina28 gave a hug 1/30/2012 at 1:05 pm

Hi Deefer,
Thinking of you. Every time I go to Ted's I don't know what to do, so I leave:(
Hope things are better for you, but I know how it goes. I remember last year you were on the roof ...Read More

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Mayasbop commented 1/19/2012 at 2:42 am

Thank you. I just don't like bullies.

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Jsomebody gave a hug 1/14/2012 at 1:22 pm

Hey Deef, Thinking of you. Hope you are doing OK there but know things must be pretty tough right now. Hang in there stay sane...The end must be some time, even if we can't see it! Love Jen

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anonymous13319 gave a hug 12/23/2011 at 2:36 pm

I wish you a Merry Christmas, I wish you a Merry Christmas, I wish you a Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year…Hugs, Lilli

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Jsomebody gave a hug 12/15/2011 at 12:37 am

You have been missed deef. Hope your kitty is doing OK. things will settle down after the hols I think.....Love Jen

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christina28 gave a hug 10/26/2011 at 1:37 pm

Hi Kathy, Thinking of you a lot, and hope you are doing OK. You are so capable and I admire all you do, so just wanted you to know I keep you in my heart and wish the best for you always.
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Jsomebody gave a hug 9/25/2011 at 10:54 pm

Hey deef read your latest, could you have him kidnapped by aliens or something...He has gotta see he is one more stressful load on you and he is at least capable of Not Being One!!! Any computer nerds ...Read More

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annt gave a hug 9/25/2011 at 9:52 pm

I'm sorry your husband has depression too. Mine has nothing to be depressed about either, it's all chemical. Or lack of the right chemical in his brain. We keep rotating the meds and trying new meds. ...Read More

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anonymous13319 commented 9/22/2011 at 12:09 am

Kathy, we have a forum member who has been posting information about the use of natural coconut oil to help with the symptoms of both Alzheimers and Parkinson's tremors. Have you heard anything about ...Read More

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anonymous13319 commented 9/16/2011 at 9:28 pm

Kathy: Now that I look back - a LONG time ago - I can see that she was having these panic attacks. She lived in a small town and would just drive herself to the ER. I think they knew what was going on ...Read More

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mariesmom commented 9/16/2011 at 8:47 pm

thanks dear one

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annt gave a hug 9/16/2011 at 4:40 pm

Thanks for the hug. No thanks to the useless man. We're all stocked up here.lol!

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cricketinafp gave a hug 9/14/2011 at 7:54 am

good morning....well there may be some hope of one?

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cricketinafp gave a hug 9/5/2011 at 12:01 am

Kathy, did you ever find out about paying taxes on what your Mother is paying you? From what I understand so far I think we are supposed to pay taxes, which really sucks imo. Hope you're having a g ...Read More

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dsargo16 commented 8/28/2011 at 6:00 am

good you tell me what medicine help my wife has dementia and has the same problem

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Jsomebody gave a hug 8/19/2011 at 1:50 pm

Big Bee Birthday Hugs Deef, hope you get a break now the folks is clearing out!!!

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mariesmom gave a hug 8/18/2011 at 10:01 pm

New here but good to know you. I share every ounce of your frustration and am coming right up behind you on those damable birthdays. Hugs

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christina28 gave a hug 8/18/2011 at 9:35 pm

A very Happy Birthday, Kathy. I'm right behind you, sister. September 28.
Placing Mother back in care home on Saturday. Same owner different home as original place in 2009. She is not aware of be ...Read More

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cricketinafp gave a hug 8/18/2011 at 8:54 pm

Happy Birthday! now know your not alone and that many of us have or are right there with you in the same situation..

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christina28 gave a hug 8/6/2011 at 12:48 pm

Hi Kathy, thinking of you and hope you're having fun with your company.
Love and hugs,
Christina

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Jsomebody gave a hug 7/29/2011 at 9:17 pm

I am still holding them smelling them letting the new sink in before I wash and wear. Pathetic i know but gah I don't get new stuff often and it is so nice to enjoy it! Still not showing em to mom, I ...Read More

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christina28 gave a hug 7/29/2011 at 12:58 am

Deef, you are just too amazing for words. I hope your husband helps with the housework, and I hope your relatives are staying at a hotel and taking you out to eat. I quoted Sean Connery as King Arthur ...Read More

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Jsomebody gave a hug 7/28/2011 at 4:19 pm

Having too too much trouble getting through E mail again sending along my very Grateful Thank You for sending me such a lovely gift. It came today and I was so happy to see it! OMG who sends people cl ...Read More

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sskape2 commented 7/23/2011 at 1:41 pm

Hi Kathy, was thinking of you in the heat this week. Just talked to a friend in Gardner, she's plugging in her AC! I've got fans blasting and usually an oceanbreeze, thankgod. I've got renters in and ...Read More

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