sarah63 commented
7/17/2010 at 4:26 am
Dear craftynurse, my heart went out to you when I read your message. We have just put our 85 year old father in care and he is a man who has been controlling and domineering all his life, very loving
...Read MoreDear craftynurse, my heart went out to you when I read your message. We have just put our 85 year old father in care and he is a man who has been controlling and domineering all his life, very loving in one way but smothering and oppressive with that love. He has always controlled and bullied my mother so you can imagine how hard it was to get him to even cooperate with us about going into respite care. Funnily enough for the first couple of weeks he was an absolute angel, but over the last couple of days he has become tearful and emotional, yesterday he had a right royal temper fit, shouting and threatning and trying to bully the nurses into taking him home. I am the only one living here to be able to visit him, so it is heart breaking to see him sad and homesick and so distressing to know I cant' do anything about it.
I just don't know what to do with myself I am so anxious and upset. I don't blame him for feeling lost and lonely at the home, yet he has never ever had to do anything he didn't want to before and to come home would probably be the death of my mother who is elderly and frail and unable to care for him any more.
Sorry for rambling on, I just wanted you to know that there was someone else going through the same thing.
I am in Brisbane Australia, if you would ever like to drop me a note.
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