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Happy new year to you! how's your caregiving duties? are u done with it? or is it just starting all over again with another member of the family needing u 24/7? whatever your situation is, give yours ...Read More

Happy new year to you! how's your caregiving duties? are u done with it? or is it just starting all over again with another member of the family needing u 24/7? whatever your situation is, give yourself a pat in the back for a job well done! happy new year my fellow caregiver. as for me, i'm still right smack in it for 19 years now. mom's alzheimer's progressing perhaps way beyond 2012, 2013.... 2014?? i don't know. god bless us all. i myself look to a nice ending to my own caregiving story and pray i still have by then sanity, health, love in my heart to share to my man, muster the strength to find him as it's tough to be a single parent, and employment available for me even though i'd be beyond 41 yrs old when the time comes mom bids this earth goodbye. hugs & kisses to all of us on this website. happy holidays my friend.

How are you...haven't seen you in awhile...Lilli

thinking of you and hope all is well at your way ,
xoxo

Nice to hear from you.

castoff..thanks I will ask the pharmacist next time I go to Rite Aid

I have some very low days too, because I feel my own time slipping away so quietly but relentlessly. Somewhere in the world people are actually enjoying their lives! One day at a time, keep on keepin' ...Read More

I have some very low days too, because I feel my own time slipping away so quietly but relentlessly. Somewhere in the world people are actually enjoying their lives! One day at a time, keep on keepin' on.

hi, how are you doing?

As hard as it is - we have to learn to take our emotions and bury them for this kind of discussion and remember that we are trying to do what is best for our parent(s).

I pray your strength in the Lord, in caring for your mom. His comfort is the best comfort we could ever receive.

I so appreciate your post.

Hi Castoff. How are you? I have missed you. Won't you come back to the thread? love, miz

hi thanks for the itchy eye info, Have a good holiday,Sue

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my question. I just needed to vent and I know that you are right in what you say. I am working on making some changes in how I respond to the my ...Read More

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my question. I just needed to vent and I know that you are right in what you say. I am working on making some changes in how I respond to the my fil. I too am trusting God for his grace, mercy, comfort and define protection. Thank you again.

OMG--I'm with you castoff, on these last threads. I figured you might know bobbie when I saw your name and beautiful photo of boat. I am new here--earlier this month--but already feel like it's been y ...Read More

OMG--I'm with you castoff, on these last threads. I figured you might know bobbie when I saw your name and beautiful photo of boat. I am new here--earlier this month--but already feel like it's been years. "Grossed out" is a cool place, but I am not a regular. CAN'T KEEP UP and my shoulder is bad from being on HERE so much! lol Thought it was from lifting my Mother in and out of bed several times a night!! Can't blame her for everything! Anyway, Ditto everything you said, Big Hugs, God Bless You and Merry Christmas! christina

What's going on Cast?
Miss you and have been thinking about you big time.
I hope that you're doing ok. You know that you have some good Grossed Out friends, right?
lovbob

Hi there, sounds like you need more hugs that even I do. If you can bite your tongue and say nothing, you're better off than I. I can get just down right cranky when my husband's brother is out for wh ...Read More

Hi there, sounds like you need more hugs that even I do. If you can bite your tongue and say nothing, you're better off than I. I can get just down right cranky when my husband's brother is out for what he can get of "Grandpa's" estate even when he won't lift a finger to help the guy. I think you're doing a great job :-)
Carat6108

I'm thankful for this site so I can relate with others who are going through the same things I am dealing with. It sounds like you and I are related, with the EXACT same circumstances. I sit and pond ...Read More

I'm thankful for this site so I can relate with others who are going through the same things I am dealing with. It sounds like you and I are related, with the EXACT same circumstances. I sit and ponder what life would have been like had I been a selfish, narcissist. Well, I guess I can look at Mom and see what it would have been like....

Thank you so much, castoff. I know that what you say is true. I miss her so much but she is in a wonderful place, not suffering and with my dad.

thank you- u understand- this is such a hard journey- it does get harder as time goes on.i find myself crying and in tears so often.i want my mom back-i know it isnt going to happen-its just so painsf ...Read More

thank you- u understand- this is such a hard journey- it does get harder as time goes on.i find myself crying and in tears so often.i want my mom back-i know it isnt going to happen-its just so painsful to see her so aggitated,so frustrated, sometimes she knows what is happening and thats when fear and angry set in- then, it sets off -what seems like- a total disconnect of brain cells- then everything goes crazy-
cant there be some kind of help to take away the extreme anger and fear? the frustration and all the loud,nasty,crazy,repetitive behavior? in this day and age of so called medical miracles- where is the help for the people who have been here the longest-where is the respect? perosnally, it makes me question why r we here? only to end up like our parents?confused,crazy,inpain,suffering,disrespected,etc?
im sorry for sug negitivity- i just feel like i a goingto fall apart-
im so angry and sad- tired and probably need to eat a little more-
i thank u for letting me vent-
soon to be taking mom to a neurologist-if we can manage to get her dressed and out of the house--

Thank you for the hug castoff.....appreciate it so much. Sat down with mil last night and hubby again explained how I speak for him.....and she says "I guess that's vice versa then too" a little snot ...Read More

Thank you for the hug castoff.....appreciate it so much. Sat down with mil last night and hubby again explained how I speak for him.....and she says "I guess that's vice versa then too" a little snotty....but then she tried the little sweet act. I was so proud of myself for standing there with my mouth clamped shut...:)

it is some type of dementia-definately fear- she is 87 yrs old- has had diabeties for about 20 yrs- many health issues-dropped pelvic floor-gets impacted often -was just in hosp for that and wasnt abl ...Read More

it is some type of dementia-definately fear- she is 87 yrs old- has had diabeties for about 20 yrs- many health issues-dropped pelvic floor-gets impacted often -was just in hosp for that and wasnt able to pee-needed cathether- because she wasnt
able to sucessfully eliminate- she became very inactive- staying in bed most of the time- even before she seemed to always have a great deal of pain-
about 6 months ago when she was going to PT they said she had good flexibilty- but she didnt believe it- having fallen before- she was and is afraid of falling- she always had a problem with vertigo and dizzyness- feeling unsteady- but nothing was really found or given to help- she had many different test to see what the cause was- nothing really found-
she had temporial artiritus(sp?) about 6 yrs ago-
was on prednesone- along with her insulin- if was a hormanal ess-
we finally got thru that- but depression really tookover
although that was a dirty word to her- she was a professional-a therapist,a teacher,very intellegent,an artist-musician- cultured and accomplished-
she had a few small strokes-started not being able to express what she was trying to say- it really frightened her-
and it progressivily got worse-
she realizes on some levels what is happening-
she also is fighting the "take over" of her life by
not only the disease and aging, but by the agency,and their rules and employees,which is connected to the insurance she has that my brother is overseeing.
i was included in her healthproxy and poa- but was taken off
due to family issues- my brother who lives 4-5 hours away is
more inclined to believe and trust the so called professionals-
ihappen to question things that dont make sense or that i dont understand. and that has become one of the big issues-
be that as it may-she hasclearly said she doesnt like and is fearful of all these people around her- she gets afraid- and
frustrated and then fights everything-
she needs someone 24/7 but not someone who to sit next to her and watch her everymin. u mustknow that many of the people who are hired as caretakers arenot educated enough in the area
of common sense and what the emotional needs might be-
it very frustrating-but it is necessary- i cant be with her all the time- it is contributing to my own health problems- but i am in touch all the time=i live avery close- and i can calm her down, most of the time- but since my brother has the legal authority and i dont- btw, this was changed,with moms permission, but i wasnt included when there or made aware at the time of the change.i dont know what was said to influence her-
i have been the one caring for her the past 7 yrs, i took her to doctors, spoke with them, i know her history and basically was he caretaker-alone-
i dont know if i am giving u too much info-
i guess i needed to get it out- i find my self in tears right now-
i losing my mom- i amconstanlty being told i dont know what is best- i am not a doctor= leave it to the professionals-
well, sorry- i have seen too much that goes wrong in the medical
field-
my dad was a doctor- i grew up learing about hospital sand the politics
i worked for him the last 10 yeawrs of his life
i worked in hospitals before- i am not blind to what goes on
i dealt with mu fathers horrific treatment when he was dying- form his own hosep=when insurance was low- to the so called best places for patients to go after the hospital relaeases them-
being told it was a hispice and it wasnt= horror stories which i wont go into =
i apologie for the lenght of this
i feel like im going crazy
i can just imagine how my mom feels
i hope i havent misused this chance to post-
thank u so muc for just listening

Thanks for answering me back, castoff. Someone quite awhile back mentioned the urinary tract infection. I might have been you. I'll have the doctor check that and mention the low sodium level. Isn ...Read More

Thanks for answering me back, castoff. Someone quite awhile back mentioned the urinary tract infection. I might have been you. I'll have the doctor check that and mention the low sodium level. Isn't that odd how that effects dementia? Mother is just going down hill fast with her confusion. Her family and friends are noticing now. I'll make a doctor's appt. Monday to see if her doctor will check dementia. Thanks, again. :)

Wishing you a day in which you can find thankfulness and peace. Love ya

I hope that you have a good Thanksgiving.