Answered a question 1/4/2010 at 4:27 pm
Are you asking about "getting a life" or dating? The reason I ask this is because you need to have a life before you can meet anyone who wants to share it. I know it is easy to feel blue or like you
...Read MoreAre you asking about "getting a life" or dating? The reason I ask this is because you need to have a life before you can meet anyone who wants to share it. I know it is easy to feel blue or like your life is over when the kids leave & you care for a parent. These suggestions are not frivolous - they work for others, maybe you too.
Go for a walk. Find out what volunteer, or part-time paid positions are open that will let you socialize (Starbucks & Trader Joes have good cultures & extend benefits to part-timers, to mention a few of the many companies that don't discriminate on age & caregiver status). Find something you enjoy doing that stretches your brain and your body. You might even join a senior center, faith based org and also take your mom with you to places - many free or low cost things to do if you hunt.
Some men also care for family members and are looking for companionship as well. You would be surprised the number of men who are attracted to a woman who is self-assured enough to have fun on her own terms, and take her mom with her. Or as one man who asked me if I was single the other day when I was out with my mom said - - - Lady like you is a keeper. I was at an evening YMCA yoga class with my mom, who is in a chair but likes the breathing exercises and mediation.
Be a keeper - live like it is your last day, laugh when things are funny, dance by yourself and with a little joy in your life, you will begin attracting what you wish for.
Although it is not easy, it will keep you sane, grounded, and you mom in a better mood too.