My Father's Friend or Foe?

It sounds like you have taken many of the necessary, preliminary steps. However, here are some additional steps I would recommend:

1) Put a freeze on your father's credit, if one is not in place already. This will prevent the woman from being able to convince your father to co-sign on any loans, credit cards, etc. You should do this with each of the three credit bureaus (TransUnion, Equifax, and Experian).

2) I would recommend proceeding with the stay away order. Is your father going to be angry? Yes. But would you rather have him angry or cleaned out?

3) It sounds like your dad might be in need of more socialization if he is so susceptible to her. Elderly people are often very lonely. I think you can soften the blow of the stay away order by making sure that your dad is getting plenty of interaction with other people at a local senior's center, book club, or other such activity.

thank you so much for the suggestions. I did go through with the stay away order. I went to court with letters from three doctors stating how vulnerable and fragile minded my father is. I brought copies of a years worth of bank statements showing each time he went to the ATM. He would take out $100 for himself and then put his card in again to take out $100 for her. This was constant. The police did an analysis of his financials and determined that she took a little over nine thousand dollars from him. Not to mention the twenty five hundred he kept in a drawer plus all the property of his that she sold. I found out she was talking to his doctors behind me. I have a Advanced Medical Directive and POA. I am also trustee. The judge asked me if I talked to this woman about the problems. I said yes but felt she didnt understand and gave me only her life story. She backed me up when it was her turn. She gave the judge her life story and admitted in court that she would "only" take $400 a month from my father! The judge was not happy with her for taking advantage of him. AND when he issued his ruling...the woman didnt understand. The judge had to explain it to her four times. She even interupted the judge and challenged the doctor's letters I submitted. The judge pointed a finger at her warning her to stop and that she had nothing to do with my fathers medical matters. Well, I am happy to say that I won and a one year restraining order was granted. But...the judge said the law says he can not restrain social contact. He let this woman call my father once a week! But I did get the restraining order with is renewable in a year and 65 items that she had taken...some having belonged to my mother. THEN...two days after court....how I wish it happened before so I could show the judge....my father received a piece of mail at his address but with that woman's name. She never lived here. IT WAS A CREDIT CARD APPLICATION!!!!!! I did phone that in to the police investigating officer. I have the credit card company investigating how her name was connected with my father's address. I ran all three credit reports. No activity just credit inquiries...which could be offers and or applications. Hard to tell which.
My father seems to understand that she took advantage of him. He doesnt want to talk to her....thankfully. He is claiming the right not to answer his phone. He is not happy about the mail which seemed to convince him that she was doing something illegal.
I will follow through on your other suggestions! Thank you!

eayala8, I'm so glad to hear that this turned out about as well as it sounds like it could! Best of luck to you and your dad.