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At age 78, Sheila thinks she's a good driver, and she would like to stay that way. But lately, she has been in minor accidents. Sheila wonders how she can stay safe behind the wheel. Will taking a class for older drivers help?

You may have asked yourself this question about your aging parent. Getting older doesn't make your senior parent a bad driver. But there are changes that may affect driving skills over time.

The Elderly Body

As we age, the joints get stiff, and muscles may weaken. This can make it harder for an elderly person to turn their head to look back, turn the steering wheel quickly, or brake safely.

What a senior can do:

  • See their doctor if you think that arthritis or stiffness gets in the way of your driving. 
  • If possible, drive a car with automatic transmission, power steering, power brakes, and large mirrors. 
  • Be physically active or exercise to keep and even improve your strength and flexibility.

Vision

Eyesight often changes as we get older. At night, seniors may have trouble seeing things clearly. Glare can also be a problem—from oncoming headlights, street lights, or the sun. It might be harder to see people, things, and movements outside the direct line of sight. It may take longer to read street or traffic signs or even recognize familiar places. Eye diseases, such as glaucoma, cataracts, and macular degeneration, as well as some medicines, may also change a person's vision.

What a senior can do: 

  • Have your vision checked every 2 to 4 years if you are age 40 to 64 and every 1 to 2 years if you are 65 or older, as recommended by the American Academy of Ophthalmology. There are many vision problems your doctor can treat. 
  • Talk to your eye doctor if you can't see well enough to drive because you have a cataract. You might need surgery to remove the cataract
  • If you need glasses to see far away while driving, make sure your prescription is correct. And always wear them when you are driving. 
  • Cut back on night driving if you are having trouble seeing in the dark.

Hearing

Hearing may also change, making it harder to notice horns, sirens, or noises from a senior's own car. That can be a problem because these sounds warn seniors when they may need to pull over or get out of the way.

What seniors can do:

  • Have your hearing checked. The American Speech-Language-Hearing Association recommends doing this every 3 years after age 50. Your doctor can treat some hearing problems. 
  • Get a hearing aid to help—don't forget to use it when you drive. 
  • Try to keep the inside of the car as quiet as possible while driving. 
  • Pay attention to the warning lights on the dashboard. They may let you know when something is wrong with your car.

Reaction Time

In order to drive safely, seniors should be able to react quickly to other cars and people on the road. They need to be able to make decisions and to remember what to do. Being able to make quick decisions while driving is important, to avoid accidents and stay safe. Changes over time might slow how fast a senior reacts. Their reflexes may be getting slower. Stiff joints or weak muscles can make it harder move quickly. Their attention span may be shorter. Or, it might be harder for them to do two things at the same time.

What seniors can do:

  • Leave more space between you and the car in front of you. 
  • Start braking early when you need to stop. 
  • Avoid high traffic areas when you can. 
  • If you must drive on a fast-moving highway, drive in the right-hand lane. Traffic moves more slowly there. This might give you more time to make safe driving decisions. 
  • Take a defensive driving course. AARP, American Automobile Association (AAA, known as Triple AAA), or your car insurance company can help you find a class near you. 
  • Be aware of how your body and mind might be changing, and talk to your doctor about any concerns.

Senior Health

Some health problems can make it harder for people of any age to drive safely. But other conditions that are more common as you get older can also make driving difficult. For example, Parkinson's disease, stroke, and arthritis can interfere with driving abilities. At some point, someone with health problems may feel that he or she is no longer a good driver and may decide to stop driving.

People with illnesses like dementia and Alzheimer's disease may forget how to drive safely. They also may forget how to find a familiar place like the grocery store or even home. In the early stages of Alzheimer's, some people are able to keep driving safely for a while. But, as memory and decision-making skills worsen, driving will be affected. If you have dementia, you might not be able to tell that you are having driving problems. Family and friends may give you feedback about your driving. Doctors can help you decide whether it's safe to keep driving.

What seniors can do:

  • Tell a family member or your doctor if you become confused while driving.

Medications

Does your aging parent take any medicines that make them feel drowsy, lightheaded, or less alert than usual? Medications can have side effects. People tend to take more medicines as they age, so pay attention to how these drugs may affect your parent's driving.

What seniors can do:

  • Read the medicine labels carefully, and pay attention to any warnings. 
  • Make a list of all your medicines, and talk to a doctor or pharmacist about how they may affect your driving. 
  • Don't drive if you feel lightheaded or drowsy.
 
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TruthLifeCoach

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Aug 11, 2009

Getting lost was the key for me to encourage my Dad to get my Mom tested for Alzheimer's. She went in to ask for directions at the medical plaza and then couldn't find her car. Needless to say she tested positive for Alzheimer's...

Thankfully she became fearful and stopped driving before it got into the hassle of taking the keys away from her. I'm just so thankful that nobody ever got hurt while she was behind the wheel!

Adult children need to be respectful, but persistant if there is an obvious safety issue involved.

 
 

195Austin

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Sep 2, 2009

I think this was great advice even for those of us who are young eldery and I plan to take the defensive driving class soon- I also think all states should require at a certain age to require drivers to take a driving test every year I would be in favor even though where I live there is no bus service but our senior center does transport people to the center and takes them to food stores and malls on a regular basis and am very keep aware the wheather also the night vision glasses are so great when I had to drive when my husband was with us and they are not expensive and I do even now go the easist route for me and my Mom who is 90 does not go out durning rush hour or when it is raining and at 70 when she moved to the state she now lives in she had to take a road test.

 
 

msdiva

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Sep 2, 2009

YOU KNOW I HAD AN EXPERIENCE WITH MY FATHER WHEN I THOUGHT IT WAS TIME FOR HIM TO QUIT DRIVING .AFTER THE WRECK HIM AND MOM WAS IN AND IT KILLED HER,HE WAS DRIVING, BUT HE CONTINUE TO DRIVE AFTER THAT. BUT ONE DAY MY CAR WAS IN THE SHOP AND I CALLED MY DAD TO TAKE ME TO THE STORE, WELL HE CAME AND PICK ME UP, BUT AS WE WERE LEAVING HE BACK OUT AND ALMOST HIT THE NIEGHBORS CAR IT WAS A CLOSE CALL .. AS WE HEADED DOWN THE STREET THE MAILMAN HAD PARK HIS TRUCK ON THE SIDE OF THE STREET AND DAD ALMOST GOT THE SIDE OF IT .I WAS SO NERVOUS I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. SO I TRY NOT TO TALK TO DAD THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS DRIVNG I WAS FIGURING OUT HOW TO TELL HIM THAT I DON'T THINK IS WISE FOR HIM TO DRIVE..WELL TIME WENT ON AND ONE DAY HE SUPPOSELY HAD GOTTEN IN HIS TRUCK TO COME OVER MY HOUSE ONE DAY AND IT WOULDN'T START.. MY SISTER CALLED ME AND TOLD ME DAD WAS TRYING TO WORK ON HIS TRUCK BUT WASN'T SUCEEDING..I WAS HAPPY BUT DIDN'T COUNT ON HIM ASKING MY BOYFRIEND TO FIX IT AND HE DID, I GOT MAD AT HIM BUT HE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON AND I TOLD HIM.. SO HE FELT KINDA BAD BUT IT WAS OK CAUSE IT STILL DIDN'T RUN RIGHT SO DAD HAD A BODY SHOP TO FIX IT I GOT AHOLD OF THE BODY SHOP MANAGER AND EXPLAIN TO HIM WHAT WAS GOING ON HE UNDERSTOOD SO HE HELP ME OUT AND TOLD A LITTLE WHITE LIE AND TOLD DAD HIS TRUCK WAS GONNA COST HIM 900 DOLLARS TO FIX..WELL HE DECIDED TO JUNK IT THEN. IT WAS A 84 CHEVY AND IT WAS ON HIS LAST LEG AND SO WAS DAD SO I WAS KINDA LUCKY THAT HIS TRUCK AND GOD HELP ME OUT

 
 

JenJilks

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Sep 2, 2009

I advice adult children to go driving with their family members.

Also, in Ontario, seniors have to have a driving test. But, ultimately, physicians can take away a driving licence.

Warning signs of unsafe driving include:

* Forgetting how to locate familiar places
* Failing to observe traffic signals
* Making slow or poor decisions
* Problems with changing lanes or making turns
* Hitting the curb while driving
* Driving at an inappropriate speed (esp. under the speed limit)
* Becoming angry and confused while driving
* Confusing the brake and gas pedal
* Lane crossing
* Failing to check blind spots
* Failing to look both ways before entering traffic

Again, in Ontario, you can phone the OPP and tell them. They, too, can take action to have a licence taken away.

 
 

SecretSister

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Sep 2, 2009

Good posts!

 
 

arose4yu

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Sep 5, 2009

I believe that as long as the senior is in good shape mentally and physically, I don't see why they shouldn't be able to drive until they are 100 years old!

However, there are times when it's time to call it quits.
I don't know how it is in other states, but in California if you are worried about whether your parent is a safe driver, you can speak to their doctor to have their license evaluated by having them send a letter to the DMV. An administrative hearing would be scheduled with the DMV Driver Safety Department to have your parent re-tested.

They may not be happy, but it's better for them to be angry at you for keeping them safe and others safe than for some tragedy to occur.

~Rose

 
 

mznmms

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Feb 16, 2011

Unfortunately, my dad has Parkinsons, and doesn't want to relinquish his ability (or lack of) to drive. I think he thinks it's the last thing he has control over. But he has no feeling in his hands or feet, and shouldn't be driving. He won't give us the keys. What do we do?

 
 

content

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Feb 16, 2011

and Florida, the land of elderly drivers?!?!?!?!?

 
 

triciaelle

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Feb 16, 2011

My mother didn't see a van stopped in front of her so she swerved to the right and instead of stepping on the brake, she stepped on the gas and ended up hitting another car making a right turn ahead of her. She is lucky that no one was hurt. I used the event to tell her that I was now her designated driver! It's been hard to do that but we have all adapted.

 
 

kimisme

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Feb 16, 2011

it is a difficult situation for a person to give up that freedom. a couple years ago driving with my mother was darn right scary. she even wacked off some ones side mirror with the one on her vehicle. i couldn't say much for fear of upsetting her and for her driving to get worse. i did talk to after politely about it. now she tries not to drive at night. the day she has to give up driving completely will be a great loss for her.

 
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