How To Know If Your Parent Has Dementia

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We've all forgotten a name, where we put our keys, or if we locked the front door. That doesn't mean we have dementia. It's normal to forget things once in a while. However, forgetting how to make change, use the telephone, or find your way home are probably signs of a more serious memory problem, such as mild cognitive impairment, dementia or the early stages of Alzheimer's.

Serious memory problems such as dementia affect your elderly parent's ability to carry out everyday life activities such as driving a car shopping, or handling money. Signs of dementia or other serious memory problems may include:

  • Asking the same questions over and over again
  • Becoming lost in places you know well
  • Not being able to follow directions
  • Getting very confused about time, people and places
  • Not taking care of yourself — eating poorly, not bathing or being unsafe

What is Dementia?

Dementia is not a specific disease. It is a term used to describe a collection of symptoms that can be caused by a number of different dementia disorders that affect the brain. People with dementia have significantly impaired intellectual functioning that interferes with normal activities and relationships. They also lose their ability to solve problems and maintain emotional control, and they may experience personality changes and behavioral problems, such as agitation, delusions, and hallucinations.

While memory loss is a common symptom of dementia, memory loss by itself does not mean that a person has dementia. Doctors diagnose dementia only if two or more brain functions - such as memory and language skills -- are significantly impaired without loss of consciousness.  Some of the diseases that can cause symptoms of dementia are Alzheimer's disease, vascular dementia, Lewy body dementia, frontotemporal dementia, Huntington's disease, and Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease.

Doctors have identified other conditions that can cause dementia or dementia-like symptoms including reactions to medications, metabolic problems and endocrine abnormalities, nutritional deficiencies, infections, poisoning, brain tumors, anoxia or hypoxia (conditions in which the brain's oxygen supply is either reduced or cut off entirely), and heart and lung problems. Although it is common in very elderly individuals, dementia is not a normal part of the aging process.

 
 

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Maure

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Jan 12, 2011

mother lives in assissted living but refuses to take any
medicaiton her dr has perscribed for her.
I am her daughter with financial duties, but she wouldn't sign over for anyone to tak care of her health concerns.
What can I do? She's having outbursts, has accused me of stealing keys, selling clothes and has told me not to visit her anymore, just stay away.
Can anyone help?
Thanks

 
 

kimschiff

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May 25, 2011

Maure, you are not alone, but may feel like you are the only one going through this. The best thing I have found in this situation is to get to know the AL people well. Talk to them about your concerns. My mom's AL dispensed her meds from "bubble-packs" for a small monthly fee. Get help and intervention with people your mom is used to seeing everyday, and remember you are not alone in this...hope this helps. :)

 
 

joannz123

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Aug 3, 2011

My dad is 78 he doesn't think he forgets anything, but he does. He doesn't remember who told him what or when. I'll tell him a story today and tomorrow he will tell me someone told him....and he will repeat the story I told him. He moves his truck in the morning because he doesn't want it in the sun. So he pulls it across the street under the two trees. He washes everything with a hose in the yard. Today he washed the bench, but not the flowers that are dying from having no water. He is also very arugmentive lately. I tried to tell him these things and he gets very mad and says there is something wrong with me. Please any advise will be appreciated.

 
 

JerryAnn

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Aug 9, 2011

This article was so helpful to me. Thank you so much for explaining what my doctor didn't.

 
 

lward34792

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Sep 3, 2011

I am very thankfull for information about cargivers.
I am the cargiver for my 91 year godmother(she has no kids). The are four family members helping out and a paid cargiver. But I am the one with the most time with her. She has had 2 stroke a hearth attack and has fell 3 times, but family members don't want to put her in a nursing home.
She forgets the days of the week , the months, and even put her clothes on baclwards and want to fight with because tell her that they are on wrong. She sleeps her money in her bar. She wears a panty brife and panties. Shes eats like a bird and says she will gain weight if she any more. I really need to have patients with she , it;s so hard to do . So is there class or sometingh that I can attend .
Need help

 
 

karentaylor

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Sep 4, 2011

My mother, who had dementia, was prescribed Zyprexa, which is not approved by the FDA for elderly dementia patients, but rather is warned against its use, died a week ago today -- after being on the drug for 22 days. Her sudden illness, elevated sugar levels, and other symptoms all confirm that it was the use of Zyprexa which led to her stroke and subsequent death. Does anyone know if I have any recourse? I know nothing will bring her back, but I just cannot understand why the Dr. would have done that. He refuses to meet with me.

 
 

jeannegibbs

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Sep 4, 2011

karentaylor, I think I would pursue this if I were you. I am not a big fan of suing doctors. I don't think doctors can be expected to be perfect any more than those of other professions. So I'm not sure I'd attempt suing him in the sense of going after monetary compensation, but I would want to raise awareness of inappropriate medication use. Perhaps if he would talk to you and explain why he chose to ignore the general warning -- what factors lead him to take that risk -- you would have some peace.

Does he work in a clinic? Since he will not meet with you, perhaps you should set up an appointment with the head of the clinic. If you attitude is that you are not out to punish that doctor, but to see to it that other doctors are aware of this risk and to safeguard the health of other edlerly patients, you may have a better chance at success.

Please let us know how this unfolds for you. We care.

 
 

Karentaylor,

Sorry to hear about your loss. My mother died about 7 years ago from lung cancer. I'm sure that she would not have lasted too many more months anyway, but owing to some questionable moves by her doctor, her death came right out of nowhere. It was like, "Well, with lung cancer there's an ever-present danger of fluid build-up, aka pleural effusion. And of course, NORMALLY a routine thoracentesis (fluid removal) could provide temporary - or even longer - relief. But since we have her on a high maintenance dose of Coumadin (blood thinner), no surgery of any kind is possible. So let's just pump her full of morphine and you can go meet with the hospice representatives. Next."

My God, if I'd had any idea that they would be such laissez faire boobs, I would have run out and bought a pulse oximeter and stethoscope on Day 1. Plotted all my measurements in Excel, and known my mother's breathing status inside and out. No way that a massive pleural effusion could sneak up on me. We could have easily tapered off the Coumadin / Warfarin / rat poison in plenty of time for surgery.

But, as you say, nothing could bring her back.

Anyway, your mother's Dr. probably refuses to meet with you because he is now in serious damage control mode, since Zyprexa is such a well-known no-no with elderly dementia patients.

Back in 2004:

"Eli Lilly is reported to have voluntarily informed doctors that its antipsychotic medication Zyprexa (olanzapine) may increase the likelihood of strokes and deaths in elderly patients."

And:

"In 2009 Elli Lilly, the makers of olanzapine (Zyprexa), pled guilty and paid $1.4 billion to the federal government for allegedly targeting doctors who worked in nursing homes and assisted living facilities to prescribe olanzapine off-label to elderly patients with dementia."

("off-label" means that patients are "being given them for reasons for which they have not approved")

Finally:

"The company said it has no plans to seek approval for use of Zyprexa to treat elderly patients with dementia."


 
 

karentaylor

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Sep 4, 2011

Thank you, and yes I do plan to pursue the issue. I read somewhere that although doctors were discouraged and even warned against the use of Zyprexa with the elderly, they were free to prescribe it to anyone. That seems a bit reckless.

 
 

lbdresources

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Sep 12, 2011

I saw many of these symptoms in my parent long before anyone would consider him "elderly." I think using the term elderly may give the wrong impression about who can exhibit these behaviors.

 
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