There is no reason to wait until depression happens. There are approaches that can help prevent or lessen the symptoms. Among them are:
- Keeping your elderly loved one on a regular schedule. It can be difficult for someone who is older or ill to adjust to changes, such as less rest and a more hectic schedule.
- Not feeling guilty for picking and choosing which holiday gatherings you and your loved one can attend.
- Making sure your loved one and you get regular exercise. Unfortunately it's typical for people to stop doing the healthy things they usually do because of holiday activities (like shopping, cleaning and cooking). Make exercise a top priority.
- Not overeating at every meal. Save your indulging for special meals.
- Being careful about the amount of alcohol you drink.
- Getting plenty of sleep.
- Staying on your medications.
- Recalling that the real joy of the holiday is with being with loved ones.
Generally, what can help is not being too hard on yourself for the difficulty you may be experiencing. Be honest and recognize that the holiday may not be the same without your family member or friend. Talk with people you trust about your feelings. They will be honored. You can also find a support group, where you can discuss your thoughts with people who have gone through the same thing. You can often find groups by going through your church, synagogue, or senior citizen organizations.
Remember the real meaning of the holidays is to be thankful for your memories, for what you have now and for what the future will bring.