"I just can't get this checkbook to balance this month." Those words were my first inkling that mom might not be as sharp as she once was. I was taken by surprise. After all, she had managed her own finances with aplomb for many years and all I did was a little coaching. She remembered all her appointments, all her meds, and often reminded me of dates to remember. How did I miss this? Had I purposely been blind to subtle indicators? The answer was "yes," because I didn't want her to change.
Why Things Go Awry
Even those who are "young" and "well" might have some trouble managing finances. Things don't necessarily improve in later years and can go from good to bad or bad to worse. Why aging parents need help can vary greatly and the need can be insidious or abrupt, but odds are that they will require help some day for some time.
Mom's financial difficulties were partly due to her illness and the medications she was taking. Fiercely independent, she fought to maintain her mental fitness. She exercised her brain with crosswords, word games, solitaire and TV's Jeopardy. But in her 80s, lupus took its toll on her money management skills.
Statistics from The National Council on Aging show that 29 percent of homeowners over 62 have difficulty or need help with one or more ADLs or IADLs (instrumental activities of daily living) which includes money management, along with shopping, cooking, cleaning and using the telephone. Be observant. If you notice a problem in one area, there might be problems in another. Physical illness and/or response to medications, loss of a spouse, and depression are among the most common precipitating factors.
Finances can also get off track because your aging parents don't have as much money as they used to. They may be too proud or independent to let you know. A 2007 study by the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College revealed that 40% of retirees between 67 and 80 suffer a decline in income and assets, the greatest being due to the loss of a spouse. Inflation, poor spending habits, inappropriate investments, and failure to plan how to use assets are other reasons for a decline.