Your loved ones have become your caregiver, what would they write on this forum about YOU?

Here is my exaggeration: My wife (is Sendme) and has always been a good advocate for me, and others. She has faults, but can still wipe her own.
She has been healthy her whole life, and now that she is 93, we are considering assisted living, however she wants to age gracefully in our home. She can still shower, walk daily, we cook together, but she no longer can assist me with as much. Should we hire help to come in, or continue to tough it out?
Just an example, folks! Now this, is an over-estimation of how healthy I might be at 93. If my husband has to help me in the bathroom, it may as well be over.
Imop.

She doesn't sleep at night, just wants to eat junk food and is always negative. She hates watching TV and I can't find anything else she likes to do, she drives me crazy!!!

And, about Cwillie: She still, at age 100, is posting on AC forum!

What my caregiver say about me? First thing she will mentioned that when my friends came over to visit for the first time in ages they say "what in the h..l happened to her?".....

"she use to go to the gym 3x a week for decades and now look at her, so out of shape.".....

and "how old is that cat now? 28?"

"I see she still has that old Jeep, she swore she would drive it until the wheels fell off... I see one did".

She is sooo quiet. Its sad she can't read anymore. She always had her face in a book. Still has that warped sense of humor though. At least she has her faithful old cat to keep her company.

She used to care for everyone else, now look at her, she doesn't even care for herself- will be closer to the truth.

And, about Fregflyer, at least she has her old cat to help her post on A/C, but can anyone read that?

And about Gersun, After publishing that caregiver book, it's all she wants to read, but she makes us read it to her over and over.

About Jeanne, our biggest fear is that at her age she will be baking another cake in the middle of the night behind our backs.

Hey, the posts are out of order. Looks different than intended. FirstcJeanne posted, then Sendme posted.
Gersun posted about herself, then Sendme posted about herself.

Send does not want any loved ones to be her caregiver, please.

I think the out-of-order may be related to time change!

Jeanne was a really decent caregiver for others, but she would never win a Great Patient award. She moans and groans and makes sure everyone knows she is suffering! (At least she doesn't expect us to fix her.)

Sleep is a huge issue. She has a genuine sleep disorder and her nights and days are mixed up. This was just odd when she could be left on her own, but now that she needs some supervision when she is awake we are having a very difficult time managing that. Right now we have two caregivers who cover 9 pm to 5 am 7 days a week. It is really hard when one of them is sick or needs time off! We think she might be willing to go to a care center but none of the ones we've talked to have a clue how to provide activities, meals, etc. on her weird schedule.

Food is another issue. She has a good appetite and likes a very wide range of foods, but texture is very important to her and now that she has some swallowing difficulties it is about impossible to get her to eat pureed foods. She is OK on smoothies and milkshakes but she insists on eating some "real food" as well, and we are all worried she will aspirate food. When she was a bit younger and it might have made sense she absolutely refused a feeding tube, saying she'd take her chances with aspirating and dying.

She talks to herself, but we are used to that. She also talks to a ragged old teddy bear quite a bit.

My Mom (Stacey B), hasn't change all that much in some respects, ever since we were little kids, she always found a reason to give us orders any time one of us stood up to leave the room, "oh your getting up, well then, sweetie, will you get me this or that, or put the kettle on for tea??), she has been doing this for as long as I can remember! She was always lazy, but we have given er allowances since she has such crummy knees. Now that she is wheel chair bound, well, that hasn't stopped her, she Still wants to go to the Casino at every opportunity, and gheez, she doesn't let up! It's always Go Go Go, with her, just kike our Nana, our Grandmother used to be! Feeding her isn't so bad, as she has always had a good appetite, but she always running us here and there, non stop! Thank God for our Dad, he's never been a smoker or drinker, so he's still looking after her as always, he is very devoted. Mom always said, that when she becomes too much, then to place her in a Nursing Home, and bye Gode we will, And Soon! She is running us ragged, but Dad keeps saying just one mor month, crikey, how hong do we have to wait? I'll be 74 next week! I think they should have developed a Little Pink Pill by Now, to put her , No Me, out of her, No My, MISERY, as she alway said how she would take one if ever she became a burden, well to be honest folks, the time is NOW! I want my life back! Signed Hailey

oh I do hope that she would never really want to put me down, but I NEVER Want my Children burdened with either of us, I would really be fine in a Nursing Home, I'll be the little old lady who is sweet, kind and complimentary to everyone, as we know that bee's love honey, and I believe I would be treated much more friendlier that way, or at least, that is my plan. I truly believe my children will all pop in once a week, and that would be fine with me, just enough! Don't forget the candy and a nice hot flask of Tea!

About Staceyb, she still keeps us laughing so we will keep her around until at least 99 when it's no longer funny.

If I need a caregiver later in life, it will not be a relative, especially one of my children. I will not do to a loved one what my mother expected from me. Thankfully she died before it became a 24/7 situation. I will leave the responsibility to those who are paid to do the job
Hopefully I will die before my quality of life deteriorates.

And, about Staceyb, we love her so much that we will be posting her funnies for her on AC when she can no longer do it for herself.

What a tricky B*TCH!

This is an intriguing question, one which really requires some frank self analysis to answer truthfully. It's also hard to even conceive of being in this situation.

I'm copping out and just going to blame it on chocolate mind confusion that's preventing me from thinking clearly. Maybe that's the answer to my old age - feed me chocolate and leave me be!

We found GardenArtist out in the backyard planting M & M's in the dirt, and it was midnight. Actually that miner's hat she's wearing is rather cool looking. Should we continue to let her do this or take away her shovel for good?

HaHa, I think we will hear complaints from the neighbours because GA is sneaking out pruning and watering in their yards again!
What about you FF?

Darn! How did you figure out I was doing midnight gardening? I even dressed up in a ghillie suit so no one could recognize me. Even the neigbhor's dog couldn't figure out what I was, but it did make a lot of noise. I thought it might even confuse me for a bear or something and come over the fence after me.

Guess I need a better disguise.

But, please, please, don't take away my shovel!

About Garden Artist: Do take away the shovel, replace it with a plastic one. After age 105, don't let her out after dark. Gardening in the neighbors yards is never a good sign.

About Timbuktu, why do you say that about her? She needs so many caregivers that we have to keep checking up with each other to find out what her latest intriguing stunt is.

About Armyretired: Cannot believe the army has accepted her application at age 89! Just like her to lie about her age like that! You know, that puts us all out of a job!

Ohhh, I need some suggestions here.... The lady I take care of (Ladee) was a paid caregiver herself before she had to retire.... impatient doesn't even cover what the woman thinks should be done in a 'timely manner'.... She eats well, tho the 'chocolate addiction' is hard to handle sometimes.... and gripy.... ohhh she gets so gripy when she can't see to read or do her crocheting...and her 45 yr. old cat is just like her...She does have a sense of humor tho, if you understand the sarcasm and don't take it personal... she is a handful... always telling me how SHE would have done it , back in the day...... She is far from needing AL or a NH, but should I just quit and let her son deal with it... I already know he would place her somewhere. She isn't that hard to please or get along with, but her impatience drives me insane... any suggestions..

She never could say no and always wanted to help others. How sad she didn't take care of herself...now she needs a caregiver...tsk tsk...But at least she found a place to live that has been adapted and is accepting of people coming in to lend a hand.

Why does Pamz keep leaving these post a notes around that say "remind me where I left the pills?" "did you feed the cats? Do we have cats?" "Where the heck are we going" Oh to the casino.... ok then

About Pamz, we, the former caregivers for Pamz were fired because we were on to her. The notes just confused us and her. The cats would jump up the walls to play with the post-its all hours of the night, a note would be torn down and shredded by the youngest kitty, then poor Pamz would forget to take her meds!

About Ladee, advice for cargiver: Just suck it up and take good care of our friend, Ladee. She deserves the best of care always.