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WAIT til he is 18. tht may be a few months.. Then you can show your brother HE Can do the same.
please do so for yourself&for your brother.Your mother is young yet&instead of being the "HuSBAND Role" be the son&do what you want to do as You should..wait til brother is 18 if you can. Let me know.k. :)
HUD and/or government subsidized housing I think in CA it is called H8 housing.
Check into welfare and food stamps for mom since she still has an underage child (your brother)
There are agencies to help your mom even if she is not retirement age yet.
Good luck to you and blessings.
I'm sorry for your circumstances. You are in a difficult position. Would it be possible for you to hang in there for a while longer? Could you talk to your mom and make a one year plan for change. As I say this, it is with the assumption that you could go to school locally if you stayed with your mom for a year. If so, explain to your mom that you can give it a year. Your brother will be out of high school by then. If he chooses to go to a local junior college, there is no reason he can't work a part time job if he continues to live at home.
I don't know if your mom owns her home or is renting, but she may need to consider subsidized housing to keep a roof over her head or entertain the idea of an older responsible room mate. She may need to apply for disability if her joint issues are serious enough to qualify. She needs to start considering her options now and start working on them.
Your mom is young, but the job market is pretty difficult right now and there is a lot of competition for the jobs that allow you to make a living. What job skills does your mom have? Maybe she needs to contact Social Services/unemployment and get some direction on job training.
These are my initial thoughts. A plan helps and it puts people on notice that change is coming. Maybe you can gently help her through the process of change. You are certainly entitled to your own life and, at your age, I so understand that you need your freedom.
See what you can do to bring change about for your mom too. A year might seem like eternity right now, but it will go quickly.
You are a good son and I am sending you lots of hugs. Cattails
But you know that, don't you?
If your mother is unable to work enough to support herself, is she eligible for disability payments? Where is your father in this picture? If he is living, is he contributing to your brother's support? If he has died, is your brother entitled to some SS benefits? Could mother learn a new trade that does not include pressure on her joints? She may be around another 40 years or more. She absolutely must have some other plans for supporting herself besides relying on your income. If she is only working part time she probably isn't building up much SS credit, and not able to save for her old age. Your family is extremely lucky that you have been able to help them out for four years. Now it is time for you to move on your own.
Give your mother plenty of warning. "I'm going to start back to school in September. I will be moving out before the end of the first term. I will help you look into alternative arrangements for you and Brother if you'd like me to. My last contribution of income to this household will be December." (Or whatever you timeline is, of course.)
Give plenty of notice. Offer to help with researching options. Try very hard not to feel guilty, but take action even if you do feel some guilt. You are entitled to a life of your own.
Good luck! (And please let us know how this is working out for you.)