Question for anyone. My mom has been in NH for 3.5 years. Has advanced vascular dementia. She daily cries and begs us to take her home. Obviously doesn't realize how long she has been there. We tell her 'a few weeks' if she asks. For quite a while what I've been telling her is that we will be able to take her home 'soon.' It's getting harder as she gets more and more persistent. Am I telling her the wrong thing? I don't want to give her too much hope but I also can't fathom telling her the truth, that she has to stay there indefinitely. It would devastate her and then she wouldn't remember anyhow and I wouldn't want to have to go through that type of discussion each visit. I feel terrible lying to her. I don't want to hurt her by giving her false hope but I also know if she doesn't have any hope, she will give up. She already told me from time to time she wants to kill herself. Anyone with experience with this type of situation. What is the proper thing to do? She now has atrial flutter with her heart and shouldn't be getting upset. I know crying is a big part of vascular dementia, but what can we do? Mom is 84.