I live in her home - take care of her alone almost 3 years. We pay $600/mth towards her real estate taxes, all utilites, etc, have remodeled kitchen and 1 bathroom and various other house updating. I am her sole 24 hour caretaker - 89 year old formerly abusive diabetic - weight 240, 4x insulin daily, bowel incontinent, completely bedridden, CHF, oxygen, bedsores maintenance. I am tired of no money and my husband is working his heart out but I quit my job to move in with her. I only go to store for diapers & grocery as I look so bad - can't afford hair dresser, etc. Is it wrong to ask? Will understand if it is.