I'm 21 years old and my mom is 62. I'm married and have 1 year old twins. My mom came to help after my kids were born because my husband works out of town for weeks at a time and I had no one else. If I knew I would be in a situation like this I would've never asked her to come. It's been almost a year and a half now and she's still living with us with no plans to move out. My husband is extremely easy going and didn't mind her living with us but after seeing her bad attitude and always fighting with me he's getting sick of her being here. She never ever leaves the house because she can't drive and says we live too far from her friends. We never get any alone time because she's always home and when she does go somewhere I have to drive her. It's the fact that she doesn't seem to want to have her own life, like get a job, go see friends or go out that irritates me the most. I'm sick of her always being here in my life 24/7. She acts like she's too old to be financially independent and places that burden on me (my husband). She doesn't make any effort to communicate with my husband after a whole year of living together because she "doesn't speak English". I know she speaks enough to make small talk but just doesn't make the effort. She has attitude all the time and can't do the simple things I ask her like please don't go into our room when we're not home or please wash the kids hands after they eat. She barely cleans or cooks and tells me she's unhappy to live here and when I tell her to leave she acts like she's doing us a favor by "helping us out". I'm so sick of this situation, it's literally making me suicidal. I'm sick of fighting with someone in my own home and feeling unhappy. She guilts me by saying it's my fault she's in this situation with nowhere to go and I'm a terrible daughter. I want to have my own life with my family!! I didn't get married to be with my mom 24/7 and for her to take such a big part of my life. I have no siblings to ask for help and no one else to take her and she won't be able to get a job to pay for her own rent. Living with her wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't home 24/7 but she never tries to leave!! Please give me advice on what I'm supposed to do.