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In addition, I would talk to someone in the District Attorneys office to see if any laws were broken by them by making your mom sign over her bank account to the NH. That stinks on so many levels
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Do what you feel is best. Yes, there maybe some decline and there may not be. My Moms Dementia was so far along that I don't think she saw a difference.

Don't you have POA. As such, the NH should not be talking to Mom but to you. And that should have been established at time of admitting. They were definitely wrong in having Mom, with Dementia, sign anything and I would report this to the State once you have her placed somewhere else.

Moms NH did ask to be her payee for pension and SS once she was on Medicaid. They never asked for access to her banking accts.
If ur Mom is on Medicaid, she has a Personal Needs account she is entitled to. Also, any money left in her bank account from the spenddown. Don't let the NH tell you different. That is her money and part of her estate. Also, make Medicaid aware of the move so funds will be transferred. Maybe the new NH can help you.
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I moved my mother from her first facility, because she was literally dying before my eyes and they didn't seem to have the slightest clue what was going on. It was a skilled nursing facility, too.

Do what you have to do to ensure she's receiving quality care. Check out the Medicare website for ratings on nursing homes in your area, and look at reviews on Yelp or other sites to get an idea of how other places work. Visit in person, too.

Yes, Mom will have a period of adjustment and will likely not bounce back all the way, but she certainly isn't being cared for properly at all now so it can't be worse.

I would also file a complaint about them not notifying you of your mom's fall and trip to the hospital. That's completely inexcusable unless you aren't listed at the person to notify in the case of an emergency or don't have power of attorney for her.
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I just read your profile. This story is tragic on so many levels. You took care of your mom for a long time! It was necessary to place her in a facility You have every right to expect satisfactory care for your mother. Your inquiries should be taken seriously. They should return your calls. Can you make an appointment to see the social worker in person?

Your mom should be treated with respect and dignity. She should be given the best medical care and kept safe. Having said that, all falls aren’t preventable. As sad as it is, accidents happen. If you feel that her accidents are due to negligence, please file a report with the DON, speak to a social worker and your Ombudsman, if necessary.

Thoroughly research new facilities, if you decide to move your mom. Tour them virtually or in person if you can. Discuss all concerns.

I am not sure what is involved in moving your mom in her particular case, but I certainly understand that you and your sister would like her moved into another facility.

Wishing you and your family all the best.
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She will go through a period of adjustment.
She may well decline and the decline may be permanent or she may recover a bit.
If she has dementia the facility should NEVER have asked her to sign anything as that would not be legal. She is not competent to make financial decisions. (I do hope you have POA, or someone in the family does) I would carefully go over ANY and ALL expenses that they have put through.
Getting back to the decline. She may or may not, she may or may not be upset with the move. You can never tell how someone with dementia will react in a given situation.
But when it comes to safety and well being that is more important and worth the risk of a bit of a decline.
I would get a medical transport for her, she may think that it is another trip to the hospital. How you get her belongings to the new place will be the trick.
Or if you do take her out occasionally for lunch do the same but when you bring her back it will be to her new room. That would be easier as one of you can set up the room while the other has mom in transit.
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