My mother lives with me. She has been ill for over 15 years. Within the last month she dropped a starling amount of weight (possible medication/vaccination issue). She struggles to even drink without vomiting. I bring up the hospital every chance I get but she refuses to go. We are extremely close and I want to give her dignity and respect her wishes. However, I don't want anyone accusing me of not taking proper care of her. She is a very strong willed woman and she still has all of her faculties.
She sleeps on the floor (and has for years), only showers occasionally (and has for years) and likes being alone (except for me, but sometimes not even that). On the surface it could look strange but we've lived this way for years. The only hiccup is this drastic weight loss. Who is to say what the right thing is to do? If she goes to the hospital she could die (they nearly killed her once before), or she can stay home and try to get better herself and be comfortable.
If something happens while she's home, though, could I be blamed for neglect? I'm fulfilling her wishes the way I see it. Is this wrong?