My brother took complete control over my mother's life two years ago without consulting siblings. He placed mom into his home and sold all of mom's belongings.
four months ago, out of the blue, he places mom in nursing home.
two weeks ago, my brother, moves mom into another facility for dementia care (she escaped from first facility) . the day before he moved mom, brother sent email to siblings that he was notified the nursing home wanted her moved, so I offered to care for mom. my brother said "no"
my concerns are mom being alone, depressed and going down hill. I want her happy in her last years. I feel if mom were out of a nursing home, and into a home with family she would be better off, because she would be with people that love her.
what are my rights as far as a caregiver for my mother? my brother claims all rights, but when I asked him about his legal rights, he refuses to answer.
would mom be better in my care?
she is 91 has dementia, incontinence, diabetes (which NH doesn't adjust menu for diabetic residents...but gives insulin shots instead)
what are the steps for me to take in obtaining mom?
to care for mom, I would have to quit my job...could I receive monthly compensation for caring for mom?
also, if I cared for mom, what about her meds and insurance? would I have to pay for her meds? I wouldn't have insurance myself because I would give up my job...but would mom still have her Medicaid? or would I need to provide her insurance (like a minor child) ?
Again, I just want momma happy. Mom, like many elderly are treated like they shouldn't exist...they're old, take away their dignity, their possessions, lock them away in an old folks home...but I don't agree with this type of thinking. this makes me mad...mom deserves better than a nursing home....now, what can I do?