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Dad complains about the burning and irritation around his genitals. He is incontinent, even with a little sneaky feces. The doctor (assistant) has looked twice, even had me look. He says he doesn't see anything. I saw a slight pinker color in the shape of his pad. So all kinds of creams later and different pads, even asking him to go naked under a robe for a little while. Still he is sure there are sores. I believe him when he says that area burns. So... I'm thinking of putting a bidet to help keep him clean. (Getting him to shower is an event, also.) Any thoughts, experiences?

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We installed a BioBidet toilet seat and love it. Very easy to use and really keeps things clean. It is very easy to install, although you do need an electric outlet by the toilet. It definitely keeps irritation down.
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I think so..I had breast surgery eight weeks ago. I ordered a bidet attachment for our master bath toilet because I did not think I could use my arms well (wipe) after a mastectomy...my husband installed in twenty minutes, https://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-120-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RHSJO/ref=as_sl_pc_qf_sp_asin_til?tag=agin0c-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=5cf023620c319a59c262d34ab0f6ebc7&creativeASIN=B00A0RHSJO

This is the most awesome thing! You feel fresh and clean and use 1/2 the toilet paper.
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kirahfaye: Goat milk wet wipes can be found on EBay.
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Oooh have gone through this one multiple times with DH.
Desitin xstrengh diaper cream (or any zinc oxide type cream for babies). Slather that on, all around the testicles, especially the back side where they get fever red, and then a good sprinkling of Burt's Bees all natural baby powder on top of the cream. (Does not have the bad stuff in it like regular baby powder). Can buy both on Amazon. Heads up Burts Bee's powder does NOT smell like baby powder, has sort of a strange honey scent.

Doc put mine on a tube of nystatin cream just to rule out fungus. He went through the tube, and being in diapers we were right back to the angry red/sores. Also DOES NOT SHOWER-if Im lucky and have help, once every 4=5 mo.

Doc said for him to get bigger than his size boxers-soft-cotton. I did just that and he wears them for part of the day when he can control his urine a bit. Also SOFT jammy bottoms or SOFT sweat pants and going Commando! That with the cream and powder and we about have this licked. And if he does get bad, we can beat it back and make him comfy.

Now mine is off and on incont. with urine and he knows when he has to poop, but getting to the toilet in a timely fashion is another story. Potty chair next to bed helps sometimes. And goat milk wet wipes are our friends. Also have the hospital type non allergic ones. But they do strip the skin of good stuff, so we rotate.

What you want is AIR and DRYNESS, you do not want to be keeping him moist down there in any way. Even, depending on temp, if he could lay like a on a pee pee pad (for humans and puppies alike) and let a low speed fan blow DOWN THERE tween his legs once a day that would help too. Or even a hairdryer on a cool or warm with caution low setting from more of a distance than how you would dry hair. Then put on the cream and powder for the day. You want DRY!
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kirahfaye Mar 2019
Cherrysoda, where do you get goat milk wet wipes? I used goat milk products, but my go-to family owned supplier doesn't offer wipes.
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I would say yes -- and after he is clean and dry to rub a little Vaseline around his genitals before he puts on a new pad, would prevent his skin from being irritated and itchy.
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A bidet would help and also ask the pharmacist for an OTC ointment or cream that would help. Unless you want to get an RX cream from his specialist.
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I don't know about a bidet, but he needs to be using Peri-Guard or some other barrier cream.
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LATHER DAD UP VERY GENTLY AND APPLY EGYPTIAN MAGIC TO HIS HONORED BOTTOM. FORGET THE TEMPORARY GIMMICKS. HE IS YOUR DAD AND ONLY YOU CAN SHARE THE LOVE TO HIM AND HIS BOTTOM FOR LAST AND LONG TERM RESULTS

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Yes a bidet would help but there's a simpler solution. Use baby rash ointment like Desitin. That's what it's for. It works on anyone just not babies. It put's a protective lawyer between the skin and the poop. No more irritation. I'm surprised that the doctor didn't suggest it. There's a reason they buy this stuff by the box load at nursing homes. If you'd like an even cheaper solution then just use petroleum jelly. That's the active ingredient in all this stuff.

Everyone should use a bidet. Finally, Americans are getting around to it. I equipped the house with them 20 years ago after my first trip to Japan. I've seen it go from a being laughed at subject to something that Oprah sings the praises for.

The Japanese electronic ones can be quite expensive but cheap manual ones are incredibly cheap. You can get them for $20 on Amazon or ebay. Very easy to install. If you can change out the water feed line and a toilet seat then you can install a bidet. Takes me about 5 minutes.

For a commode, you can get a portable one. These are meant for people to carry around and use at public restrooms. They can be as simple as a squeeze bottle to battery powered ones.
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MargaretMcKen Mar 2019
I love my bidet too, but I also liked your mistype about 'putting a protective lawyer between the skin and the poop - no more irritation'. No-one is kind to lawyers, but I haven't heard this one before.
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For a less expensive option than a bidet, checkout this product ($69), it rinses with cold water, but otherwise is really helpful: https://hellotushy.com/
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needtowashhair Mar 2019
That's expensive for what it is. I wouldn't pay more than $20 for that. I would also get one with an adjustable nozzle. Not only does it allow you to aim to hit the right spot but you can move it around to clean off a bigger mess. Very useful for someone that wears diapers.

Here's one that's $25 with an adjustable nozzle.

https://www.amazon.com/Greenco-Non-Electric-Mechanical-Toilet-Attachment/dp/B01A17T3N6
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All good suggestions below I just have one more consideration to think about. I noticed you said he used pads, might incontinence briefs be helpful? I'm wondering if maybe the edges or something about the way the pads fit inside his underwear could be causing irritation. Also while more laundry, they do make cotton incontinence underwear, we have never used them but in the event he is sensitive to something in the pads or even disposables...
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There are bidet attachments for sale on Amazon. That is where I purchased mine for $45. It does not plug in. I had a plumber attach it to my toilet. It was recommended by my urologist because I was getting UTIs. Since purchasing one that cleans both the front and the back, I have not had any more. I feel this is the best investment ever.
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Our Hospice nurse used a barrier creme called Lantiseptic, distributed by 'santus'. It is 50% lanolin, so if there is a wool or lanolin allergy it would not work for you. It has become my favorite serious creme for the whole family.
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Try Balneol lotion. Kind of pricey but works like a dream. Immediate relief!
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Toilet bidets are wonderful and not tricky at all to use once learned. The assurance of 'clean underneath' is very well done this way with NO MESS and even then 'underneath' can be 'blow-air-dried'. (I 'clean and dry' with a sanitizing wipe, the seat back ,of any 'potentially soiled water' as 'consideration for the next user'.)

My bidet toilet was installed at a $1000 cost for the entire commode with bidet. I don't know the cost of an 'attachment'. It is WORTH THE INVESTMENT.
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A simple pliable plastic squeeze bottle filled with water can act like a bidet to rinse your loved one. Just keep it by the commode. After pat irritated skin dry. Then, either apply Lotrimin cream (if it is a fungal issue) or A and D ointment. By trying each, you will soon know what the problem is. He might also be reacting to whatever the pads are made of. Maybe try a different brand.
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Hi! I have had very good experience with using Aloe Vesta for my mom when she was in nursing home care. I bought it originally from a hospital pharmacy. Later I got it from ALLEGRA medical supply on line. They shipped it to me directly. For my mother it eliminated itchiness and burning. She also had terrible bedsores from sitting too long in wet diapers and from the harsh cleanser that the nursing home used. I hope that you give it a try. I hope it helps you.
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I took my ex to the dermatologist last week for the same problem. Turns out, he has a yeast/fungal infection and needed prescriptions. His skin was burning and rolling off in sheets. The pan was horrid for him. He is very much overweight and was advised to keep the area clean and dry. Easier said than done. You are right, a shower is another story. Good luck on the bidet.
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Interesting question! I was wondering the same thing as we purchased one of the bidet attachments for our house and I can see where it would definitely be a benefit. I was wondering if my Mom's memory care facility would allow us to add one to her toilet there but then I noticed there isn't any outlet in the room to plug it in.
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Use Aloe Vista skin protection ointment anywhere where it's red.
It really works well for my dad.

We don't generally have to use it every day, only when there's irritation.
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Yes!!! We bought one for my husband who has ALS. It made a huge difference in cleaning and protect his skin. After he is done and I’ve lifted him, I always check with a couple of wipes to make sure there isn’t anything. I love it and it’s such a peace of mind for both of us.
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If Dad has a Burning, Then The Doctor Should have Investigated More in Store...He is not the One, Hun, Who Has to Sit in that Bed every day and Be Incontinent.
Get a Second Opinion of a Doctor who will Do his Work and Has Done His Homework.
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In case you didn't know there are bidet attachments that go over your regular toilet, some of them provide warm water and a blow dry.
And, is he using any kind of barrier cream? Anything you would use on a baby would work, I like zinc oxide products because they heal as well as providing a barrier.
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MyThreeSons Mar 2019
I found Calmoseptine ointment worked the best. It has 20% zinc oxide. Before applying, clean area with shaving cream to to rmove residue other methods don't seem to catch.

There are barrier ointment protective cleaning cloths by Sage that work well, but they are pricey.
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