As caregivers, we observe and hear all the time about our parents having worries. But what about the Caregiver's worries and fears that may or may not have come true?
For example, no one allowed inside the home, no in-home caregivers, handyman, or repairs allowed.
My own recent experience with needing help has showed me that my concerns were actually over-the-top!
The kitchen sink was so bad in my mind, that I was afraid to dig it out and really assess the problem. I imagined leaks, black mold growing, possible mice. The garbage disposal did leak, into a bucket, creating rusty water. My dH no longer able to make trustworthy repairs, and my worry preventing me from taking positive action.
The truth was more like it was really clean under there, no damage, clean wood, no pests whatsoever. We have a new sink, garbage disposal, and fawcett! It was free from the Senior Center Handiworker program. I swallowed my pride, filled out the fearsome paperwork, and here I am to remind other caregivers: Do not worry, do not fear!
Meeting these trustworthy people has changed my life!
What is worrying you today?
So sorry that I had misspoke about your worries for your Mom having a stroke.
As for my red squirrel, Lol. Thank goodness! Wrong color!
What color is your cat, I will keep an eye out.
Then, I forget what exactly I was so worried about, and I am left with worry about nothing'
Then, there are those well-meaning persons, some of them singing: "Don't worry, be happy!" OR, "NO WORRIES!"
Hope you brilliant people are enjoying this "Worries Gone Wild" thread.
I have enjoyed your comments.
Validation! It feels good when someone else has seen the same thing! I wasn't dreaming about seeing that s h o p l I f t e r.
Ms.Madge,
Should we put a time limit on the worries? How long can you worry at one time?
Holiday end,
Maybe, you could stay out of the left field? Thanks for your contribution. Procrastination does make worries worse.
My worry is that I've gotten so good at pushing my worries to the back of my head to deal with later that soon there will be no more room back there and they will all come pouring out of the front of my head all at once and I won't be able to keep up with them.
But seriously, my Mom's welfare was always my biggest concern and now that she is gone I have to start worrying about me again and I don't really want to do that but it looks like I might have to cause my last Doctor's visit has raised some worry flags for me. I may have no choice anymore. I may have to deal with the extra little spare tire around my middle and my insomnia which are causing health problems. I've got other worries too but I'll start slow and work my way up to them.
Thx for starting this thread Send.
Maybe that will lighten your burden(s).
It is really difficult to take care of self-worries, when giving people will always care more about others, imo.
I sometimes worry that my head may explode if I don't get my worries out.
I would check to see what was being served when I couldn't be at the nursing home and
call and ask if mom ate. She was only 85 pounds. Now her weight is normal, over 100,
I still fuss a little.
One "organizer-type" person has not worked out, so I continued to move furniture by myself.
Still, I seem to be stuck at the point of actually going through the paper clutter.
However, it is good to know that I am officially NOT a hoarder, according to a few that I have consulted. So I was worried for nothing.
Today, I have decided to NOT worry if others are leaving the AC website, because I will survive, even while missing them.
And I worry about the caregivers who are in the trenches, on their loved ones last days, burnout looming, their hearts breaking, stretched to the limits, and there is nothing I can do to ease their burdens, except to say......eat chocolate.
Just writing this, I know my worries need to be let go.
: o)
get worse. I'm worried I'm over worrying. I'm worried this situation will last longer than I can deal with it. Wow I never listed all my worries & im sure there's more. Anyway it's helpful just to share, thanks
Reading your worries......
It is helpful to share them, I agree.
That is how I felt.