Mom moved in with us over a year ago. She had a chronic cough..otherwise she was eating and drinking normally. About 3 months ago she started bowel inconsistency and we finally insisted she wear depends. She eats less then 500 calories a day, lost 10 lbs in the beginning of November, I took her back to the doctor 6 days later because she is up all night with diaherra, lost 6 lbs. She is 84 lbs. she is on a walker, sleeps 3 hours a day, doesn’t eat, doesn’t sleep at night due to bowel incontinence. I can't take care of her myself anymore, I am worn out on the edge of a breakdown myself. She has scans today, has to go for labs, more scans next week, then a follow up on the 12th. I am really worried she needs a hospital , hospice, something professional to help diagnosis quickly her situation and get the best care. Instead what I’m seeing is a slow drawn out miserable process where medically it’s hard not to understand why a 90 year old who is losing lbs a day isn't in the hospital. It’s as if death is just slow decline and it’s so cruel. Please help me. I’m so lost I can’t help anyone at this stage and called my sister and told her to get here after Mom asked me what I did for her yesterday, I am done.