I am 62 and my husband is 82. He suffers from numerous phobias, emotional problems and now symptoms of Parkinsonism since suffering a severe concussion two years ago. He is often depressed, feels his situation is futile and that he is dying. His doctors have checked out nearly every part of him and he's really in pretty good shape except for the above mentioned problems . He is very attached to me and my care. My problem is that he is not a good patient due to his fears and does not participate in treatments that may help him if they require any type of sedation or if possible side effects listed are frightening to him. This severely limits our treatment options. I have caregivers with him during the day so I can work and I care for him nights and weekends; as well as mapping out all appointments and accompanying him to same. I am sole care for him evenings and weekends. After two years of this I am exhausted mentally and physically. Our daughter lives on the other coast and has invited me to visit for 5 days. When she first invited me I thought it was not a good idea but the more I think about it I really would like to re-charge. Problem is I feel sooooo guilty about leaving him. I told him I'd like to go for a few days and would arrange live-in care until I return but he's very anxious and doesn't want me to go. He says he feels he is wasting away and dying. Is it wrong for me to want to get away for a few days? Why do I feel so guilty? Is doing something for me being selfish at his expense?