My mom has been gently fading this past week. Every day I wonder if it is the last. Her doctors have all confirmed it is terminal and her refusal to eat or be tube fed or even have an IV doesn’t give them or anyone much hope that she can turn things around. I get it. I don’t pressure her at home. I always offer her what we are having. I always ask if she wants anything. She says no. It seems like the nausea makes her avoid food and avoiding food gives her nausea and she doesn’t care about breaking the pattern. I tell her I love her. I have connected her with as many family members I can think of. I don’t know what else to do. My mind keeps telling me that there must be SOMETHING that will give her a will to live. I care for her 24/7 for the past 6 months- once I found out she was terminally ill (something she had been hiding from me for a while I think). How do you cope with the inability to do more? How do you be okay with letting someone choose to die? Please no one tell me about heaven - it doesn’t make me feel better.